What would you think if your Bf said this?

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Last summer I had a severe infection and ended up admitted to hospital for a few days for IV antibiotics. My bf sat in a&e with my all night and refused to leave my side even though there was nothing he could do. I eventually made him go home the next morning once they moved me to a ward. He was in a bit of a state tbh as was exhausted and worried. We were only a few months into the relationship and I thought he was amazing for doing this as my previous Bf had been more concerned about a bbq with his mates he might have to cancel when I was admitted to hospital a few years ago. Anyway fast forward a few months and I started with another infection and his words were "I can't face another night in a&e on a hospital chair." I was a bit and told him it hadn't been much fun for me either!
He is now my ex-Bf but I remembered about this today as I was reminiscing about the relationship.
What kind of attitude is that when someone is ill??

Its a shit and selfish one. You’re lucky he’s an ex! These little moments speak volumes about a persons character. My Dp was very ill when we first met (not hospitalised just nasty virus). I went and took care of him, made him soup, put myself at risk of catching it etc. I said “if I catch it will you look after me too?” And his answer was “only if it’s not on the days I have my kids”. Within that one sentence was the rest of our relationship. Of course kids come first, but his first instinct wasn’t to reassure me or to show that he was equally committed to caring for me. It was a defensive attitude about me stealing time from his dcs. When someone tells you who they are, listen. Well done for listening!

I was so stunned because he was so supportive the first time I was ill. It was such a change of attitude.

Myrelationship you posted quite a lot on my threads at the time I was struggling with him and I really appreciate your opinion as it was you amongst others that made me assess everything and dump him

A crappy kind of attitude. If he genuinely cared a night in a&e on a chair wouldn't have mattered do long as you're ok. You're well rid!

Yes, I am well rid. I had to leave my breastfed toddler overnight (my elderly mum looked after him and my 2 daughters) for the first time when admitted and that was the worst thing about it. I was so upset so the thought of having to do that again made me very anxious. But all he cared about was himself! It took my LO 6 months to get over the resultant separation anxiety from that hospital admission. Something else he wasn't very nice about either

It's an extremely shitty attitude and I'm sure you deserve better.
Good riddance and

Some people lack emotional intelligence , it was telling how he turned your illness into his drama . I hope u surround yourself with compassionate people , not drains on your time n emotions .

I’d think the first time you were unwell he genuinely cared about you and was worried about your health. But the second time had rolled round he was no longer that into you and didn’t try and hide it that well. Well rid.