Feel I’m drowning

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Hi- not sure if anyone can advise, just feel I’ve got to get off chest.im sorry if it’s long.
Been with dp 2 years now.after a year he moved into my home an it’s worked out great with my ds etc

Trouble is since moving in , the dp has had one health concern after another.he already had a long term health need anyhow but no big deal, but since then he’s had one thing after another, gaining 3 stone too.
It all came to a head on a holiday abroad, ended with an ambulance called etc
Got home and had to get checked out and it’s lead to being diagnosed with a heart condition which is serious an will need an op or more soon. Being diagnosed has been to conclusion an answer as to why he kept getting all the other illnesses.
He’s also got to really strip his weight without excersise so now trying a slimming routine.hes become fixated by it, is grumpy because hungry etc
My problem is I just feel I’m drowning in his world, it feels one thing after another an each time it’s a complete fixation on him.
This is alongside his shift work, then x2 weekends a month when he’s free he has his dd.
I just feel it’s so much baggage that I didn’t know at start has come along an we do nothing fun.if we occasionally do it’s planned well in advance to accommodate kids, shifts etc
I guess I’ll be wrong, selfish but how do I stop feeling like this? He’s a good man an I love him dearly but I just can’t see the wood for trees, it seems he’s taken over my life with every health issue.
I don’t wish to split up , but I’m overloaded.

You are criticising your DP for his ill-health? If roles were reversed how would you feel if he was saying the same about you? I know I’d be gutted.

Don't be ridiculous, she isn't criticizing him for being ill, she is articulating how bad she feels. OP I think you need to be really open and frank with him about how you feel and see how he responds. A good partner cares about you and your life, illness or not. If he doesn't respond you need to think seriously if it's right for you

Thank you pog100- I’m definitely not criticising, in fact I’m one of his only supporters as he has no family or close friends .im the one that suggests alternatives for medicines , diets etc .Atm I’m his only support and I guess what I’m saying is it’s a struggle.
I’ve suffered a injury and pneumonia last year, An although he was ok, he wasn’t my biggest supporter, perhaps because I was still capable.
An although he’s not wallowing in self pity, in fact tries to lessen it all to his detriment, it’s still pressure. Pressure on him, us, our lives.
Our lives are hectic anyway with 4 kids , shifts, tough jobs, pets, it’s now an extra worry.
I don’t think he ll respond well pog100- he ll take as criticism or just brush it under carpet, but I feel that’s what we re doing all time .
Oh I don’t know, I can’t seem to explain it properly, without like the other op, attacking me for selfishness.
I’m aware it can sound selfish, we re only 2 years in though an it’s very hard.