We're engaged but he doesn't want to get married

[Ace95]

Last year my boyfriend proposed to me on my birthday, we've been together 3 years and have a beautiful daughter together. However, since then every time I have brought up the wedding he brushes it off and says he doesn't want a wedding because he doesn't want my family there.

Now to put it out there my family and I don't get a long and since I moved out at 18 to go to University we have only spoken maybe once a month if that, and have only seen eachother a number of times. So to me having my family there isn't really a big deal but to him it seems to be the reason stopping him.

Anyway, yesterday he just stated he didn't really want to get married at all, and I asked him what was the point of giving me the ring. It sounds like I'm being petty, but what is the point of wearing this ring if he has no intention of meeting me at the end of the aisle?

I'm kind of at a loss here.

But did you have a child assuming you were going to get married?

So how does he see the future of your relationship?

Did he actually ask "will you marry me?"

As others say, you aren't engaged. Either give him back the ring, or sell it, or (least dramatic but most pragmatic) just move it to another finger.

He's your boyfriend, refer to him as such, be clear to him that you don't consider yourself engaged because engaged means engaged to be married .

Take your time to consider whether you're happy as you are, which is fine, or want to split up soon/ medium term. Think through the mechanics of disentangling and co-parenting without being in a relationship and decide whether you'd prefer that.

Sort out wills, life insurance beneficiaries (work may have an in service pay out even if you don't have it separately) and next of kin, point out to him that he should too, as you aren't getting married.

OP does the Child have His surname ?