Having feelings towards my neighbor

[Destinysdaughter]

Ive been in a relationship with a guy for the last year. He lives in a v small village. We have some neighbors who we have got to know quite well the last few months, they are a married couple. Whenever I'm around the wife I notice I have v strong feelings towards her, she's v beautiful but more than that, she's also a love,y, caring person. My feelings towards her are definitely becoming more sexual, I'm not gay but I've had sex with a few women before in the past, I know she's deeply committed to her husband although I know their sex life isn't great, as she's admitted this. What should I do? Actually I know there's nothing I can do, as it would hurt my DP and destroy their marriage. I can't avoid them as they are a big part of my DP's social life. Do I just park my feelings and admire her from afar? I haven't felt this way about a woman for many years but I just feel so alive and excited when I'm around her. I'm so confused! She hasn't reciprocated in any way, she's just a v friendly person. I can't tell anyone about this, which is why I'm writing this, late on a Saturday night....

I real advice at all, but how do you feel about your partner? Does he have a similar affect on you? Or the opposite?
Think you need to look at your relationship too and work out exactly what you want. But as for this woman, I'd say you need to keep it under wraps and admire from afar.

The fact that you are interested in someone else so early into your own relationship is a red flag. Think about why you are interested in someone else? What is your current relationship missing? Considering cheating in the honeymoon phase doesn't bode well for the future of the relationship.

Since this woman is in a committed marriage there's a fairly good chance she's not interested in cheating with you, hence showing no encouragement.

There's nothing to be done here but distance yourself from her and focus on what's lacking in your own relationship.

You know you can't do anything about this don't you?

The fall out would be horrendous, and she doesn't feel the same.

Distance yourself as much as you can, and for gods sake don't get pissed together!

Thanks for the replies, I've been reflecting on this a lot today. My DP is lovely but tbh we rarely have sex and although we rub along together fairly well, it's not the most exciting relationship. I'd been single a long time and at my age it's hard to meet a decent man, which he is. This woman is beautiful, glamorous, sexy and warm. Basically everything I want to be but don't feel I am. I've totally put her on a pedestal. I'm sure she's got flaws but I can't see them. Of course I'm not going to do anything about it. But I feel intimidated around her, like she's a movie star. I can't tell anyone in RL about this which is why, v late night and slightly pissed I put it on here!

I'm sure she's as flawed as any of us. Maybe you should get to know her better and start seeing her as an ordinary friendly person, rather than this amazing, perfect ideal woman. It's interesting that you've identified you want to be like her. It sounds as if you admire her, and are seeking validation from her, rather than wanting to be in a relationship with her.

Your current relationship sounds a bit dull, as if you've settled for what you think you deserve. Perhaps counselling will help address your mixed emotions.