This guy and I were friends for a year, he kind of drunkenly told me he liked me last year, but just assumed it was drink taking. We had a great friendship and one night we were in a bar and a girl was flirting with him I asked why he didn't do anything. He said he wasn't interested. When I probed he said he didn't want a relationship ever as he's been hurt in the past. More questioning had him tell me he was really attracted to me and had been for ages but was scared to pursue it as he thought he would mess up and lose me.
So I said we'd take 3 months of being open about it attraction, and not pressure it and take it extremely slow as he said he had a really hard time with feelings. But 2 weeks later her landed round at mine declaring he did want more, and wanted me as he did care for me so I was a little freaked but we went for it and had a great 4 months in which he was super affectionate and tender.
The last month hasn't been great as he is super stressed with work, which has been the last 30 days in a row 12 hours a day, really struggling with the pressure. We got together last Sunday he was in a foul mood from work and a bit stressed about a meeting the next day but we had dinner a lot of drinking, i got him home as he was crashing out he was moaning about all sorts, and give off to me for to much pda and I said heaven forbid we should show feelings he snorted and I asked did he have feelings for me, he told me no he didn't I knew this 'no feelings means you can't get hurt.' That he done the 3 months, pointed out he'd made plans with me for summer I was to drunk to remind him he asked me for more, told him he met my family that he rushed up, why do all that if he was only in it for 3 months, he said we could or would do all that as friends!!! Anyway he told me he couldnt do this, then left and hasn't spoke to me in a week. Never been so confused or hurt in my life...