Feeling alone in a relationship.

[Ohsotiredagain]

We have been married 4 years, 2 children, we have had a difficult year with stressful medical concerns for one of the dc.

We used to get on great, have fun, rarely disagree, hold hands, be a couple.

Now it feels like we are strangers sharing a house, one or other of us seems always to be in a bad mood, sulky and silent, I can't remember the last time we kissed, not even a friendly hello, goodbye or goodnight. We are not sharing a bed as DH moved into the spare room so our dc who wakes frequently can co-sleep with me.

I keep blaming the stress we are under but I'm scared if we drift on like this our relationship will be broken beyond repair. We each annoy the other but neither had don't anything terrible. It.....just feels numb.

I don't know what to do to fix things, i know we need to talk but I don't know where to start and I find it really difficult. I'm scared talking will make things worse.

Just feeling so tired and flat.

Hi ohsotired, well maybe your name says it all and you are both very tired with all the stress you've both been under? You either not had chance or forgotten how to have fun or both. So sorry to hear this, and I hope your DC is getting on the mend?

Are you scared of what reaction you will get if you try to hold hands or kiss him or anything? If he tried to give you a hug what would you do? I know what you mean about talking making things worse but I think not talking and just the 2 of you carrying on in miserable silence is certainly not going to help your relationship, so talking is worth a try.

Is there any way a someone could look after the DC so you have a break together, even just a few hours?

for you.