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All 3 of my relationship have links to one random woman!

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JKCR2017 · 06/05/2018 21:15

So I’m in my twenties and have had 3 serious relationships. I’ve been with the third, my partner for nearly 6 years but all of my three relationships have been linked to this one lady - let’s call her ‘Sarah’ for the purpose of this.

None of my ex’s actually knew each other. Do you think this is weird they are all linked. Explain..

Relationship 1: a guy that lives 25 miles away from my home town who I met in college. His uncle dated ‘Sarah’ and was step son to his son. I met her and his uncle once at his house briefly during our relationship.

Relationship 2: a slightly older guy guy than me who lived locally and we have a son. His mother was widowed but had re-married to this guy called ‘Rob’. Rob used to be married to Sarah and had two grown up children with her so technically Sarah was mother to my ex boyfriends step brothers. Sarah still had a close relationship with her ex husband Rob so she bizarrely was often at my ex’s mums house. Yes odd!

Relationship 3: my partner who I’ve been with for years and prior to meeting me he had been in a 3 year relationship with a lady called ‘Debbie’ who had three children. The father of her three children was ‘Sarah’s’ brother so Sarah was aunty to my partners former step children.

Do you think is weird? Haha! It baffles me every time I think about it!

Sorry if I’ve confused anyone. I confused myself.

All names have been changed 😂😂

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LemonSqueezy0 · 06/05/2018 21:33

Wow, that's freaky... Do you and Sarah discuss this?! Does she feel the same way about you, that you are linked to HER relationships?? Grin

brokenglam · 06/05/2018 21:34

Freaky!

buckeejit · 06/05/2018 21:37

Do you live in a smallish town? That wouldn't be weird here in NI but would if You were in Manchester or somewhere.

I sometimes think life strangely repeatedly puts certain people in your path

Perfecto · 06/05/2018 21:39

None of the links are that close (I don’t get some of them - uncle was stepson to his son?!) so not sure it is that freaky.

If you have lived somewhere a long time, everyone seems to know everyone. I live on a city and find that.

StripySocksAndDocs · 06/05/2018 21:39

That is freaky!!

Maybe you have a biological need that leads you attracted to men connected to Sarah. It's probably a fairly unique need.

What do you and Sarah say when you meet?

JKCR2017 · 06/05/2018 21:43

I don’t meet Sarah. I don’t really know her to be honest. Only ever saw her in passing. I wouldn’t speak to her if I seen her. My partner doesn’t know her either. I know it’s not close links but I still find it odd when I think about it (which isn’t often these days)!

I live in Cornwall so yeah it can be a bit small town but these guys don’t know each other (well my partner knows my sons dad obviously but he didn’t beforehand) and the first relationship was 25 miles away. We had no links at the time! No mutual friends when we met or anything!

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JKCR2017 · 06/05/2018 21:44

I meant ‘step mum to his son’. My bad 😊

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Gemini69 · 06/05/2018 21:47

definitely a small community thing Flowers

LizzieMacQueen · 06/05/2018 21:49

That is really odd. It's like some plot from a movie where she's reversed herself into your life.

The plot would develop and you'd find out she's your birth mum.

JKCR2017 · 06/05/2018 21:55

Also just to add to the story. Sarah’s son (my ex’s stepbrother) had a child with this last from another part of the country. They’ve since split up but my uncle dated a relative of hers 😂😂 my uncle had no idea mind and still doesn’t! I didn’t want to confuse him.

Not related to this but my partner also found a photo of me at his mums house when we’d been dating a few weeks. My mother in law ordered her daughters school year photo and they sent the wrong year - my year! So all those years before he knew me he had a photo of me in his house 😂😂

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Southernstars · 07/05/2018 01:58

Sounds like Synchronicity.

Whyarealltheusernamestaken · 07/05/2018 02:09

So people had relationships and somehow all knew each other second hand...wow call columbo!

Mycatiskillingme · 07/05/2018 02:43

Are you Kevin Bacon?

ThisIsTheFirstStep · 07/05/2018 02:52

In somewhere like Cornwall, I wouldn’t find it odd tbh.

Milomonster · 07/05/2018 06:42

Love this thread!!

LynetteScavo · 07/05/2018 07:52

I think I need a diagram.

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