What do I do now?

[Drinkingwine123]

Basically I have told my H today that I've had enough. I took my rings off and told him it's over. I'm not sure what to do next. I dont think he believes me. Hes gone to work (he works nights) and I'm working tomorrow daytime. I probably won't see him for any length of time for a couple of days now.
The reason for my decision is his problem with porn. It's been going on for some time now and our sex life is almost zero. This is mostly due to his impotence problems due to diabetes. I accepted this for a long time before I found out he was watching porn.
I have confronted him many times telling him how it makes me feel that he can get off to that but not me! It's really affected my self confidence.
SInce then I have checked his phone whenever I can - which I hate doing
Recently his taste in porn has become quite specific. Teens and more specifically Japanese teens!
Last wkend I poured my heart out to him about how he is going to lose me if it carries on. He was in tears and said he was ashamed of himself and he promised to stop.
This morning he was asleep and his phone was in the kitchen. I had a little peek and he hasn't stopped at all, in fact he's looking more!!
I'm just so sick of it, not so much the porn but the teen thing. I have a 13 year old daughter who lives with us, and he has a 17 yo daughter too. and Japanese girls look so tiny which disturbs me. I just don't know who he is anymore and he has zero respect for me and my feelings. I live in his house and only work pt. I don't even have the money to see a solicitor. I don't want him anywhere near me at the moment but what can I do?

You're doing the right thing.

You say H, so presumably you're married and therefore the house is a joint asset, not "his house".

You do need legal advice on how to proceed. And you need as much info as you can get your hands on. While he's working, take copies of everything. Do you have shared finances?

Yes, we have been married nearly 3 years but have kept finances separate

Do you have any DC together? If not, you're unlikely to have much of a claim on the house, however you do have the right to remain in it, he can't just chuck you out with no notice.

So he has ED due to medical issues but obviously can still feel horny and ejaculate. What has your sex life been like? Have you been patient and asked him how you can help him orgasm (obviously after he's given you one!) with oral or him wanking while you talk dirty, or mutual masturbation?

If he's played the disinterested card with your needs but been jacking off like a teenager, then I'd walk.

If he's been honest and asked you to adapt your sex life to his medical needs, and you haven't been understanding, then I think you're being a bit unfair.

(I'm making no assumptions about how much of each of the scenarios is true.)

If the relationship is otherwise good then can you look at counselling with a sex-positive therapist who can help you find ways that you can both get your needs met?

We have no children together.
He has changed over the years from being disinterested and saying he just has no sex drive, to being a little bit interested once every couple of months. I have been incredibly patient and we have tried most things, including viagra!

Leave. He's not going to change and will continue to lie and make you feel like shit for the rest of your lives together. The fact that he'd rather wank to teen porn then have sex with a woman similar to his own age is fucking disgusting and disturbing imo. Sack him off OP and find someone actually interested in normal healthy sex with a woman.

Quick update. When he came in from work at 4 this morning he called me a nagging c##t and told me he wants me out within a month! I've told him I'm not going anywhere and am now getting the silent treatment. I've seen my mum and my eldest daughter (20) today and was dying to tell them but what do I say? The words just would not come out. Everyone thinks he's wonderful and I don't think I could ever tell the truth about him.