Friendships?

[Cawfee]

I’m wondering how many friends do people have and if you have a big friendship group? I don’t have many and I struggle to make friends. I have an old friend from way back and I was looking at her Facebook page. We drifted apart years ago. She now has a huge friendship group and I can’t help but feel a bit jealous. She seems to make friends so easily! She knows at least 10 couples who all go on holidays together and party together every month. Is this normal? Do others have this? I feel like I’m really missing out in life by not having a huge friendship circle. So how many of you have that big, close friendship group?

Normal for her, yes. I haven't. I'd love to. I need to lose weight, go to college and University, hopefully along the way I get chance to form at least one good friend. As I write I am in hospital and in a bit of pain, have few more weeks before operation to remove fibroids.

Remember...quality over quantity. I feel nobody has lots of friends, just good acquaintances.

She’s hardly going to put pictures of herself sitting alone at home eating marshmallows on Facebook. Take it with a grain of salt.

I have 3 very good friends however 2 of those have moved overseas. Even if they lived here I’m too busy with my family to see them, as I rarely see the other close friend who lives a short walk away. I still love them and text a lot.

I also have a bunch of mum acquaintances but they’re not my friends. Still, if you saw us all chatting in the park or I put pictures of us all up on FB it would probably look pretty special. It’s really not.

Oh and before I had kids I did go out a lot, went to parties, always in photos with the same people. We would have looked like a really close, friendly group on FB, but they were actually just acquaintances regularly in the same places I was. They dropped off the grid when I had kids. Or I did...

I have lots of friends. Someone recently commented on how many friends I have even.

But I read a thing about scattergun friendships and realised this was me - many “b” friends but no real “a” ones.

For example I had a party last year and my house was so full of people you couldn’t move. But then my life tanked and I felt like I didn’t have anyone to talk to as no real very close friends.

Even now I can easily see a different person for lunch or drinks most days but no one ever seems to want to hang out more than once every few weeks. What I really want is one or two people I feel like I could call anytime and get quite lonely

I have six close friends, and then I have my church friends, so am very lucky in that respect.

I have 2 incredibly close friends who I met at Uni and would trust my life with. 2 great mates who are my neighbours, been there for weddings/kids etc. A couple of close friends at work who I don't socialise with outside but I could trust at work. V close to a cousin as we have kids of same age.

And that's about it. Never needed a phone book full of friends. Loads of people I say hi to at work or in my town and would happily have a coffee with but they're not 'friends'.

Thanks for all the replies. I’m reading with interest

I have a lot of friends. I'm very friendly and open and always form large friendship groups wherever I go. Some of my closest friends haven't got many other friends but they're amazing friends in every way. Other friends are even bubblier than me and have more friends. The amount of friends you have isn't a reflection on character , it's more about not being easily embarrassed and confidence. I organise lots of things and will talk to many people whereas some of my friends just wouldn't start a conversation with someone they didn't know.