a bit of context
i met a woman a good few years older than me a few years ago when i left a relationship and moved to a completely new area. She said she didnt make friends easily and we hit it off straight away. IShe did tell me early on that she could just cut people off without a second thought,) and i did find her bossy and quite domineering, though wise and likeable.
At the time my life was falling to bits and she dispensed lots of advice (as i say she is a wise lady) but she got quite cross when i didnt always follow her instructions. She also began to over step the mark a bit - she labelled me as "vulnerable" and not very resilient and began doing things like making appointments with my gp and then talking for me. She is very pushy. i had lost a pregnancy quite far on and i was lost and lonely and having all sorts of problems. she sort of took me under her wing but also seemed to enjoy the drama though i always had to go to her, she never came to see me. She could also be a little cruel sometimes in her comments.
I am actually resilient and am not in the least bit vulnerable - i have been in some pretty dire situations but at all times ive known what i was doing and some things were of my own choosing though she didnt approve (relationships etc)
then last year i called her on the phone as usual and she said she would ring me back.
im still waiting. she totally ghosted me. i tried to call again and left a text message but i didnt get a reply. we had each other on facebook and after a few months i unfollowed her and put it to the back of my mind. The other day i was on facebook and had a quick look at her page, there were a couple of "meme' things that i found a bit odd and think were maybe aimed at me.
one was morticia adams (from the adams family) and a caption which said "you cant just cut people out of your life" while showing morticia cutting the head off a rose in full flower (as if saying "oh yes i can" and the other is a meme saying "if i cut you out of my life chances are you handed me the scissors:
i know she has form for this but i honestly cant think of anything i did. She is one of those people who like projects and she is now throwing herself into community projects (and winning awards for them as she is very driven) but i cant help wonder what i did that warranted ghosting. im wondering what scissors i handed her other than not always "doing as i was told" by her. i cant decide if she just lost interest when things settled for me or if ive done something. its been a year now without contact so too late to ask. i feel a little sad about it. i do have friends but mostly they live in my old town and i rarely see them. that said, im not someone who needs to go out and do things, im more than happy with my own company. i sometimes socialise with work colleagues. i mainly do things with dp or my adult dd. The rest of the time im a home bird though if you throw me into a social situation im fine and can talk to anyone. im one of those people who strike up conversations in the check out queue so i know im not socially inept!
i thought those memes were a bit nasty really and id not stoop to that even if she had offended me in some way. Its now really got me wondering if i did something?