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No sex

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Prunella73 · 05/05/2018 19:48

If you ha

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Prunella73 · 05/05/2018 19:52

If you and your oh were mid 40s had small children and marriage was not in good shape and you had not had sex in almost a year and no intimacy of any sort would you assume that your previously quite highly sexed husband was looking at porn, webcams or interested in someone else or would a difficult year be enough to kill this drive in a man? Sorry for first post.

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Wherearemymarbles · 05/05/2018 20:00

There is another. He doesnt fancy or love you anymore. Which could lead to the other things you have mentioned.

Could be stress - everyone deals with it differently. A medical condition wouldnt account for the lack of general affection.

I think you have to talk with him.

thefourgp · 05/05/2018 20:02

You know him best. What do you think?

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Prunella73 · 05/05/2018 20:12

I’m not sure- he’s blamed stress but thar wound explain it for a spell but not for this long. I’m assuming men are different from women in this matter.

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LEMtheoriginal · 05/05/2018 20:16

You are describing me! Except our relatio ship is fine - I however suffer from anxiety and due to some issues with my coil have not enjoyed sex for some time. We don't have sex - I still love and fancy my DP but sex causes me anxiety. I'm not looking at porn or having an affair.

Wherearemymarbles · 05/05/2018 20:30

not all stress is the same. Some is very positive, ie working flat out on a project that will reap rewards is far more positive going to work everyday for a boss you hate.

Even so there must be a reason he is withdrawing from you and i dont think he can lay that on the door of being stressed.

MMmomDD · 05/05/2018 20:40

I’d assume either a medical issue or an affair - and no affection - touching, etc - would point to that as well. Especially if he were different before.

Porn/etc doesn’t replace sex in grown men who used to have sex previously - it’s usually additive.

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