How do you meet a guy, without OLD?

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It just feels a bit too much like putting myself out there. A bit too visible. Is it just me?

But then, how else do you meet someone?

I’ve been single a while. I think I’m ready to get back into something light and fun. But the thought of OLD being the way to do it puts me off. When I’m out, I’m with the girls so really not looking at the men in the bar. No-one at work. Any other ideas??

Take up new hobbies or sports

A variation of this thread crops up every few weeks, OP, usually with the same ideas/suggestions - which some will then argue with because it didn't work for them. Might be worth trying a search and reading a few of those

Im in your situation Op. OLD is definately not for me, and I dont get out much, dont really have the desire to these days.
I have a feeling that if I just carry on with my life and doing what I enjoy, new people will crop up..?
That's what im hoping anyway!

Find a hobby that you love doing . And hopefully you will find someone or more freinds.
I like meeting people OLD is good for that .
And to work what kind of realtionship works for you.

If you are looking for ideas have a look at this book. Some of the advice is outdated if I remember rightly - it has a weird section on personal ads - but the spirit of it is great and it was written way before OLD existed.

It's about treating finding a partner like a project and has all kinds of suggestions.

www.amazon.co.uk/Searching-courtship-womans-finding-husband/dp/0965175324?tag=mumsnetforum-21

I think it's a case of going out there doing stuff you like, and eventually meeting someone with a common interest.

eg I love 60s 70s & 80s Soul & Funk. There are loads of events/gigs happening, older age group which suits me as I'm not young. That's where I met OH. It's not necessarily a "couples" dance style you can go have a boogie with mates... so there's no feeling of putting yourself out there. I just had fun.

I still go to the boat trips weekenders etc with OH. I wanted someone into socialising, not Mr Pipe & Slippers. We're all different re what we like...just find something you like.

I've a friend who likes Swing/Balboa dance and all the glamming up/theme nights that go with it. I hardly see her anymore but good for her, new lease of life

I remember conversation with an acquaintance years ago who wanted to meet someone. I (half) joked she should go 'shopping' for someone. Get out there. Her married and LTR mates were full of advice in 'ooh no I wouldn't, that's desperate' 'lucky you enjoy being single' etc fashion. It's alright for them, they're in relationships but she at 35 was single wanting to meet someone

I just thought, why? We can actively search for a new career, hobby etc so why can't we go out there with meeting a partner in mind?

OLD felt a bit too "set up" to me. I'm glad I met OH while out doing something I like...so even if I hadn't met anyone I was having a nice time anyway.

Good luck OP

Sports, or interests

People who have common interests are likely to not only find each other attractive but have common interests which is a good start to a relationship