Feeling broken

[sunsetheaven]

7-8 month 'relationship'. But he didn't want it to progress. He's never had a girlfriend, or a real job for that matter. He clearly liked me a lot, and I think he tried, but whenever I started to discuss the matter (in a non confrontational or scary way), he would freak out. He would always come back. But this time it's different - he's really started playing up. For a month, he's been coming and going - one minute we should be together, the next we shouldn't for various reasons. Ripped my heart into a million shreds.

You all warned me about him on here. But I just felt like I had to go with it - I felt very in love and addicted.

Now my heart is really broken and I am hurting so damn much. Can't see myself being happy any time soon, which I know is an over reaction, but it's such a horrible way to feel. I hadn't felt this way about anyone in over 10 years.

Feeling lonely tonight and could do with some positive thoughts. Thank you.

It sounds like he’s pushed and pulled you constantly and this is seriously bad for your mental health.
Do you want someone in your life who treats you like this? Are you just clinging to the good bits?
I’ve been through similar, and the longer it goes on the more of a shell you become.
You can find someone that wants to be with you completely. It is possible.

I have a thread about my narcissist ex. And it sounds like a very similar scenario. Lovebombing then discarding. The mirroring, so you believe you’ve found your soulmate, as it’s just so perfect?

It’s possibly the hardest type of break up to go through, because to a normal person it seems incomprehensible that someone can behave that way, and you doubt everything about yourself

There are lots of people that have walked in your shoes, and though it’s fucking tough, the best thing you can do for yourself is to go NC and try and get yourself back to you.

Agree with pp , you need to now just look at this like a process , first you remove and block him from him from everything go NC and be patient with yourself as you go through the stages of grief : denial, anger, bargaining, depression and finally acceptance . Being aware of these stages will help you identify what you're feeling . Just know that things WILL get better and you WILL definitely be happier again! Xx

How old are the both of you?

Thank you all for your comments.

I am so scared I will never feel this way again. The last time was 12 years ago. And I want to meet the right man and have a family in the next 5 years or so.

I can't help but feel this way, it's so painful.

Jesus OP.. he sounds really cruel.. please close the door on Him sneaking back in lovely...