Commercial pilot/cheating?

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Hi everyone, coming here for some opinions.

My DP has always wanted to be a pilot. He currently has a very good, stable factory job (management). he has come across an advertisement for pilot training and jobs for an airline doing short haul, European travel. He's already writing up his application and is excited.

background - We've been together 3 years, not long after we got together he cheated on a night out, worked past it and were happy and now expecting first DC. A few weeks ago I found messages to an ex, basically an emotional affair. He said they were just talking about 'what ifs' and he was talking to her because I can be hard to talk to. I was devastated (still am) but am trying to forgive him and make it work (and yes, I know I'm a complete mug). He was known for cheating on his ex's, so I was cautious when we got together but friends are always telling me 'he hated ex and they were never good together, but he really loves you and wants to make it work'.

I'm happy for him to be excited about an opportunity for his dream job, but I am absolutely gutted. I know if he did somehow get it it would spell the end of our relationship, I wouldn't be able to trust him spending most of his time away and working with numerous attractive women in foreign countries. I've told him this honestly, that I cannot be the partner home alone most nights wondering whether I'm being cheated on; to which I've been told I'm a complete dick, I'm trying to ruin his dreams and so on. It's well known pilots cheat, I'm friends with several air steward/esses who have told me what they're like. I don't want to shit on his dreams, but I don't want my partner in a career where cheating could be so easy.

You already don’t trust him, I don’t see this relationship lasting regardless of what job he does.

I think you should walk regardless of whether he becomes a pilot or not he sounds like a grade A tosser and will more than likely cheat on you again .
The fact that he was talking to his ex is totally unacceptable, cut your losses now OP xx

He will cheat regardless so you are best of out of it...

As for the pilot bit. It costs around £50,000 iirc to get your atpl (air transport pilots licence) and takes some years. Less if you got the US and fly every day but you have to factor livings costs on top. Then you have to find a job.....
Some airlines will pay for it but only for the elite. Some pay then basically take it out of your wages until its repaid.

Unless the course is for an airline its bs

It may be his dream but suspect its more pipe.....

I'd kick him out purely on the idea that he is willing to waste £££££ on a long course that has no guarantee of a job at the end, when you're just about to have a baby. Everybody has a 'dream job', but we all have bills to pay and reality to deal with. He's going to drag you, as a couple, into massive debt for YEARS on the off chance of a job at the end. Who does he think will be paying his rent, bills, food etc while he trains? You?
He's a cheat with ideas of grandeur! His ego must be the size of a house, because he has a weak grip on reality. Let him fuck his life up alone, cos staying with him is going to fuck up yours AND your child's.