Difficulty with friends and anxiety

[feathermucker]

I am quite insecure at times due to my anxiety.

I have an incredible sense of unfairness if friends do stuff without me. I feel like I'm missing out.

I also get upset if a friend, for example, couldn't do something with me but could with another friend.

I hate feeling jealous and would like some advice about coping strategies please.

Thanks for reading.

Anyone?

I don’t know what to suggest I’m afraid but I didn’t want to read and run.

Hm. I have felt like this in the past when I really only had a few friends/was new to the area/new to motherhood etc. Now that I have a wider circle of friends, the pressure is sort of diluted and it becomes obvious that you can’t do everything with everyone. It sort of reads like you’re not the initiator. Try and ask people to do stuff with you (and pretty sure you wouldn’t invite everyone to the same thing?). Sorry, this is mainly a bump for your thread!

Thank you.

I do initiate things. It's more an anxiety thing as, in my head, it makes me feel like I'm not good enough to be invited.

I feel like this at the moment but am trying to concentrate on other things. Just try to remember that you can’t be invited to everything and probably couldn’t go to it all if you were!

It’s hard I know. I’m just trying my best to meet up with people whenever I can...

I feel like in my group of friends most have a few that they see probably every week but I don’t have this. The friends that I used to see every week were mostly the single ones who go out drinking... I can’t really do that anymore so I’ve been hoping to form closer bonds the the ones that don’t, ie. meet up for in the park with the kids etc but it doesn’t always work...

Going to try and get out there a bit more to meet other friends so I’m not so bothered by feeling left out by my ‘circle but it doesn’t come so easy to me.

I have a friend who feels like this, and we've chatted about it before.

Try and see friends like crisps. Sometimes you really need salt and vinegar. You've had a bad day and salt and vinegar totally get it, as they worked there too.

You love cheese and onion to bits, but they aren't in that job role. So they won't totally get it like S&V will.

Sometimes you love a party mix, and all are welcome!

I realise this analogy may seem stupid, I just want you to see that people need different friends at different times. Doesn't make you less needed though.

I felt that way before. Now I just take the emotion out of it. If I try to organise something & it dsnt work out I think aw it wasn’t meant to be.
I like going to things that people are not going to bail on planned meet ups book clubs park run other meet ups that will happen 100 percent.
It takes more effort for people these days to meet up. I’m guilty of it as well.