Can't cope with seeing ex all the time

[buzzlightyearr]

Sorry guys just need to vent

I have a newborn daughter with my ex

He left me just after I found out I was pregnant, we were back and forth seeing each other, until he met someone new a couple of months ago and he got into a "proper" relationship with her.

I was totally heartbroken to say the least and now our daughter is born he's at my house a lot to see her, which I'm fine with and I am polite and civil with him and all the rest of it but inside I am totally broken (I know! It's gross!)

I just constantly wish that (even though he's been a complete prick) he'd want to try again and be a proper family (pathetic -I know)

Ugh.

I don’t think your pathetic, it must be so hard for you. You can’t just get over someone in 5 minutes and having a newborn together makes it even harder.

It’s good he’s involved with his child, but you need time to heal emotionally. For one, I would set up a schedule, I may be wrong but sounds as if he’s popping in as and when at the moment, which isn’t fair on you. Bottom line is, he left you so he can’t act as if that never happened and have free rein to come round whenever he wants. Is there someone else that could facilitate visits? A relative perhaps? So that you don’t have to see him, or at least not every time.

Your never going to get over him if your seeing him several times a week and playing happy families. Of course you’ll hope you’ll get back together. That is not pathetic at all.

Does he have a place of his own?
Why is he at your house all the time?
Are you breastfeeding?
With the days getting warmer he should be taking LO out.
You need to put some boundaries in place here for your own mental health.
You will never start to heal with this going on.
He takes LO away from your house when he has contact.
Make sure there is a schedule in place so your DD gets into a good routine.