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Can't make my mind up on oh of 6 years

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reesestimesthree · 03/05/2018 18:34

Been with my partner for 6 years and we have 3 kids together 4, 2 & 7 months. My oh goes through very long phases of barely being around. He can go 3 days without even popping over and goes weeks without sitting down to have dinner with us. He doesn't like to get involved in the kids and we have a family day out probably once a year! Really shocking. I end up doing everything by myself. On top of this he's become a real liar about small things and about where he goes and who he's with. He said he's worried to tell me in case I get mad. I've become so fed up but I desperately don't want to throw our relationship away. I don't know what to do. He's become so distant it feels like he's a roommate on the odd night of the month that he does stay. This doesn't concern him at all, he's 25 and all about his own social life. Anyone been through the same and what was the outcome?

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GertrudeCB · 03/05/2018 18:42

So you have 3 kids together and he doesn't live with you ? Doesn't sound like a relationship to me.

VeggieTaco · 03/05/2018 18:42

Where does he live? Why don't you live together?

dirtybadger · 03/05/2018 18:46

Why does he only spend the hour day at your house with this children?

As above, it honestly doesnt sound like you are in a relationship. Do you have a shared account, pooled resources? Where does he live? It sounds like you are a single parent, and he has even less contact with his own DC than most non-resident parents to be honest! You may be sleeping with him (?) Or somewhat affectionate when he is around...but again that doesnt make it a relationship. Most people see more of someone they have been dating for a few months....

I would be very prepared for him being involved with at least one other person. Maybe other children (less likely but certainly a possibility).

dirtybadger · 03/05/2018 18:46

The odd hour or day** that should have read

SandyY2K · 03/05/2018 18:48

Has he always been like this? Or is it a recent change. Becoming a dad at 21...I doubt he has the maturity for a committed responsible relationship tbh.

Seems he lives the single life while the parenting is all on you.

You haven't made the best if choices considering the type of relationship you want.

SandyY2K · 03/05/2018 18:49

*of choices

NotTheFordType · 03/05/2018 20:51

What has his wife said about your relationship?

shooshoopoopoo · 03/05/2018 22:08

Sorry...what are you throwing away?

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