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Original poster

He keeps giving my number out!!

26 replies

Teapiggy · 03/05/2018 17:59

Hi all I split from my ex of 10yrs almost a year ago and have never been happier but my problem is my ex won't accept it's over. He was very abusive and controlling and as I've said before he was jealous of his own children. He never treated me like a person just something to look after him and fufil his needs.

He gives out my number to sales people and work colleagues instead of his so I constantly her calls asking for him and it's driving me mad. I've tried confronting him and he says oh I just give yours becaise I can't remember mine. He never listens to a word I say and I'm not sure what i can do about it.

OP posts:
sugaraddedlater · 03/05/2018 18:01

Simple get a new number, buy a pay as you go sim and give the ex that number. Turn the phone off when the kids are with you and turn it back on when the kids are with him.

ziggzagg · 03/05/2018 18:01

Change your number.

bertielab · 03/05/2018 18:03

Change your number, report him to the police for harassment via third parties

pog100 · 03/05/2018 18:04

Well the obvious thing to do is get another number for yourself, don't let him know what it is and leave an answer of your choice on your old number. You could be quite creative with that message if you want.....
You clearly need to disengage from him as completely as possible.

RandomMess · 03/05/2018 18:04

Yep new sim and don't even tell him you have a new 2nd number!

Original poster
Teapiggy · 03/05/2018 18:06

Ok I thought that would be the case I was hoping not to have to change it as I've had this number for years.

OP posts:
bonnyshide · 03/05/2018 18:11

Get a new number, in fact get 2, one for him & one for everyone else and get rid of the original number altogether. What a knob he is.

Ryder63 · 03/05/2018 18:19

I was hoping not to have to change it as I've had this number for years

You also had an abusive relationship for years, but you changed that! Grin
Think of the new number/numbers as anther way of stopping his control - new number, another new start.

Ryder63 · 03/05/2018 18:20

*another

Deathraystare · 03/05/2018 18:46

You could be quite creative with that message if you want.....

Oooh yes. If you want to contact my complete knob of an ex his number (though he is too much of a knob to remember it himself) is.....

GardenGeek · 03/05/2018 19:13

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TimeIhadaNameChange · 03/05/2018 20:06

Before you change your number you could do try an verbal equivalent of “not know at this address” to anyone who calls for him. Just tell them you have no idea who’s they are asking for and hang up on them. Don’t take messages, don’t pass on any details of the calls to your ex.

BitOutOfPractice · 03/05/2018 20:10

I can only say that that is possibly the most annoying thing ever OP. What an utter knob he is, still trying to have some sort of connection / control. what a saddo

Dancingleopard · 03/05/2018 20:13

Change your number. I’ve done it loads of times. You can give people who matter your new one

NotTheFordType · 03/05/2018 20:28

I constantly her calls asking for him and it's driving me mad

Why do you answer calls from numbers you don't know?

Original poster
Teapiggy · 03/05/2018 22:21

I tend to as the children s schools number comes up as private number.

OP posts:
LellyMcKelly · 04/05/2018 06:47

Set up a forwarding service on your phone so that all calls go through to him after a couple of rings.

InfiniteSheldon · 04/05/2018 06:50

This is a form of harassment I'd report it as such

LellyMcKelly · 04/05/2018 06:51

I’ve just looked up call forwarding and it’s REALLY easy to do on a mobile!

lifebegins50 · 04/05/2018 06:57

Has he confirmed in writing that he does this?

New data protection legislation makes individuals responsible for data loss so as this is without your consent it could potentially be reported to ICO.

DarklyDreamingDexter · 04/05/2018 08:31

I used to get this with my ex. I solved it by saying "You've got the wrong number, no one here by that name" when they asked for him, then block that particular number so you never get it again. He won't miss the sales calls, but calls from work colleagues? Might get the message if he starts missing work related calls.

trojanpony · 04/05/2018 10:10

Tell them you can’t pass the massage on as he’s gone to prison.

You can’t say why but he won’t be eligible for parole for at least 10 years...

Alternatively and more sensibly - get a new number Grin

trojanpony · 04/05/2018 10:10

*message

Handsfull13 · 04/05/2018 10:21

Get a pay as you go sim and cheap phone just for contact with him. Tell him you have a new number (no mention of keeping the old one aswell) see if he starts giving that one out.
If he does you can call him out on learning a new number to give out and not bothering learning his own.
As pp say just turn that phone off when you have the kids and just turn it on just before contact and during his contact.

Neverseen · 04/05/2018 11:40

If he's giving the number to colleagues, when you answer, say 'this is his ex, he's only given you my number to harass me. We broke up a decade ago because he's an arsehole etc' maybe the embarrassment will stop him.
If not, change your number and get a separate PAYG phone just for him to contact.

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