My ex walked out on me and our son 5 weeks ago. After 5 years together and married 10 months! He seemed depressed and generally unhappy and moody all the time. He works all the time. Never has time for us. I work part time and spend the rest of the time looking after our son. He says his reason is coz he can't stand me and just wants out. says hes not in love with me anymore. and he doesn't fancy me at the minute?!
He says I sponge off him which is totally untrue I've always paid my way and helped as much as I can. He now vents anger and what seems like pure hatred to me every chance he gets. I have numerous abusive messages all of which I've ignored.
He "babysits" our son on Fridays at my house while I go to my friends for a catch up but I always end up with messages asking me to get home so he can leave etc. Basically doesn't want me to have a social life. I don't instigate arguments with him. His sister he lives with is now even trying to add me via Instagram using fake accounts to "spy" on me. He says he doesn't care about me or what I do but still manages to interfere with my life. Always causing unnecessary arguments over nothing at all. If he didn't care and wanted out why is he still venting his anger to me. Shouldn't he be getting on with his own life?
A few months ago he asked to have another baby with me, I said let's work on being happy first then he says let's move house fresh start but coz it didn't happen straight away he went mad. Then the morning he leaves me he kissed me as I dropped him at work then came home and left for good. Came back 2 days later to collect all his stuff and seemed shocked I wasn't there to watch him go with it. He complains that he is stuck paying all bills... He pays mortgage I pay utility bills, car, nursery, shopping, clothes and days out for our son. But he seems to think I don't pay any of that and I've taken everything from him that he's worked for and that I've sponged. He left here I didn't kick him out so why is he playing victim.
He doesn't ask how our son is at all when he isn't seeing him weds-fri for the 1 hour per night. last night he came round and tries acting all nice and says can I have the baby stay Sunday night. I said no you've got no where for him to stay and he goes well I can't afford a bed for him no need to be nasty??? Me nasty he's put me thru hell and I've not said boo during all of this. then today texts me first thing in the morning, does our son need anything? I wouldn't accept a penny off him as im not being accused of sponging. Now his silly new found lifestyle is getting boring he wants to fill up some spare time by having his son for 1 night?? Any advice would be great. I actually still have feelings for him and wish he would wake up from this 'midlife crisis' and prove himself and we can sort things out but maybe I'm being silly.