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Posted this on the wrong place! Hi looking for some advice really. I am a mum to 11months baby girl. I fell pregnant after about a year, which was quick but I couldn't not go through with it. Before I fell pregnant I did have some doubts about her dad but since was quite new I just went on
I know now that the doubts were very much fact. He has not supported me through the pregnancy or being a new mum so we are no longer together. He doesn't listen to anything I say and I see now that he is very manipulating and has no respect for me. I recently moved to a bigger flat across the city and without telling me he has got a flat across the road. We have no schedule in place for wee one and I am struggling with pnd. He appears whenever he feels like it and I can see he's taking over everything. I have no family or friends so it's just me and I am at a loss at what to do. I would never not want him to see our daughter but I can't go on like this I feel like I am being suffocated and I'm. Scared about my own mental health. I just want to be settled and happy with my daughter. Any advice would be appreciated x

Can you talk to your health visitor about this?
In the mean-time you need to be very firm with him.
You need to set access days and times and he needs to stick to them.
Do NOT allow him into your flat.
If he wants to see LO then he has to arrange it outside of your home.
It must be hard with PND to really stand up for yourself but you must do this.
Womens Aid may also be able to guide you on what is good to do in this situation.
Give them a call 0808 2000 247

Haven't seen health visitor since January. But it is hard I always give in but I know I need to set boundaries and have certain days for my daughter as well. Thanks for replying

It sounds hard on your own, do u have family or friends around even if not nearby? Do you want to stay where u are? What about Mum and baby groups? Getting some regular events for you both? That will help settle a contact routine also, no reason dad groups can’t be on the agenda?
Well done for getting out early, now start enjoying your baby

Go to see your GP regarding your mental health/pnd. You need to get that sorted so you can tackle the other stuff. How old are you and your ex? You sound like your quite young. Have you really no family/friends at all you can speak to even for moral support?