Myself and my partner recently broke up after 3 years together. While he did it and I was devastated, we ended up fairly amicable terms.
I did ask him (amongst other things) was he no longer attracted to me and while he said I was still beautiful blah blah, he was no longer sexually attracted to me in the end but said that was probably to do with him feeling low in himself (which was a large part of the breakup).
While at the time I took his honesty in my stride, now I am starting to take steps back and am becoming more sad now that I have been in the past month since it happened.
When I think back now, I remember how I caught him..."enjoying himself" in the other room when he said he was going to do some exercises for example. We had a dry patch of maybe 8 weeks at the end of last year with no intimacy and while after that we were being intimate again, it wasn't particularly steamy on either of our parts and now I'm blaming myself for everything and for not being enough or trying hard enough with that side of things (but he didn't either).
It's really getting me down now. I can just imagine him off with someone(s) else, now having hot, reckless relations and it makes me feel sick. I'm just so down about everything and I thought I had been coping well up until now :(