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Do I ask him out or just leave it?

14 replies

JLbaby · 02/05/2018 16:19

So I met someone last week - I want to ask him out but not sure whether it's appropriate or not and don't want to make him feel awkward.

It's highly unlikely he'll ask me out as I met him when he came to give me a quote for something so I'd imagine it would be seen as "unprofessional" if he asked me out. I randomly came across his profile on Tinder a couple of days later and his profile says he's single (whether that's true or not who knows!)...

Help me MN, I feel completely out of my depth in this dating game malarkey!! Do I just text and ask him for a drink or just leave it to fate and see if we "match" on tinder??

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hellsbellsmelons · 02/05/2018 16:22

Have you swiped right?
No match?
If no match I might leave it.
Did he seem interested when you met him?
Go for it if you want to.
Just text and say you saw him on Tinder and wondered if he was interested at all.
Take it from there.

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JLbaby · 02/05/2018 16:29

Yes I swiped right but not "matched". Does that mean he has swiped left (ie not interested), or perhaps he hasn't even been on Tinder for a few days and not seen my profile? I'm not even 100% sure how Tinder works to be honest!

He seemed interested, but I guess he could have just been doing his job and being friendly and trying to get business out of me!!

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Original poster
JLbaby · 02/05/2018 16:58

Anyone else?

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Viviene · 02/05/2018 17:05

Ask him out. You have nothing no to lose. Unless his quote was the best one, then wait until he finishes the job and ask him out then.
The worst that can happen is that he will at no and you will
Not go out with him. You're not going out with him now so that changes nothing for you :)

RainySeptember · 02/05/2018 17:26

I would leave tinder to do its job. If you haven't matched in a few days, he's not interested.

MyGrassNeedsCutting · 02/05/2018 17:55

You aren't in the SW of the country are you OP??

Only ask as I met someone who gave me a quote, we ended up dating for a few weeks after!

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JLbaby · 02/05/2018 18:03

No not SW!

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MadMags · 02/05/2018 18:05

Leave it to Tinder. If he doesn’t match with you, he’s not interested!

LikeAZombie · 02/05/2018 22:43

Go for it op you have nothing to lose.
I disagree with leaving it to tinder. From my own experience people can have some pretty arbitrary rules about who they swipe on tinder that have no correlation to who you might click with in real life. If you think he was interested from meeting face to face just text him.

userofthiswebsite · 02/05/2018 22:46

Better to do something and potentially regret it, than never do it and always think what if.

ferntwist · 02/05/2018 22:51

Wait to see if you match! Is he really good looking?

Viviennemary · 02/05/2018 22:54

Just go for it and send him a text. I don't know much about Tinder but wouldn't rely on it. It's too hit and miss.

PawprintsOnMyHeart · 02/05/2018 22:54

He might never look at Tinder. If he's on Tinder then at least you know he's (theoretically) single.

I'd text with something chatty and see if he responds before going straight in and asking him out... do a little bit of flirting first to test the water

Cricrichan · 02/05/2018 23:45

If he gave you a quote, are you likely to see him again? (Are you comissioning him to do the work?). If so then mention to him that you spotted him on tinder

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