Did anyone experience a big change in their relationship with their dd when they got their first boyfriend?

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Dd is in love!
She's 16 and they are at college together. He seems a nice boy and they are happy so far.
The issue is that her attitude to us has changed beyond recognition.
We were a typical mum and daughter before. Quite close, used to chat and laugh a lot. Always did little things together.
Since having her boyfriend she can barely speak to me or her dad and little sister.
She treats us with distain but expects all the nice things that a family provide.
Money, lifts etc.
She sleeps through her alarm but then we get screeched at for walking her.
She's massively disorganised so has to be reminded constantly to remember stuff. Bus pass, lunch etc.
I feel really sad and wonder if this is "a thing"
I've got 3 grown boys and of course there were conflicts with them but in between we got on ok and they seemed to like me

Not my daughter but my little sister has recently got her first proper boyfriend as such she's had a few before him but she's never been in love so to speak. Seems to have caused a rift between us all she's hardly home, she doesn't really speaks to us and she thinks she needs him to help her feel better when she's down which we find strange. Her friends have also mentioned the same we don't know if it's him or if she's just the infatuated with him so I think it is a normal thing when they get there first 'love' they seem to distance themselves for some reason

Thanks for replying. It's making me really sad. It's made worse by the fact that the boys mother loves dd cos she's a very lovely girl and has had a positive effect on her son and we ate left dealing with this 😳

That's what my sister is like her boyfriends mum takes her out for lunch etc where as she pretty much treats my mum like shit at times it's a shame really but they'll come running back when they realise how much they need their mums, I did 😊

Wow! So similar.
We used to do stuff together but she's not interested anymore!

There's a thing called New Relationship Energy and that combined with normal teen hormones and yuks I'm not surprised she's being unbearable. I'm sure it'll wear off? 💐

Thanks. I did wonder if it's the combination of the two.
I hope you are right

Sounds more like coincidence and just normal teen testing of the boundaries. My DD (now 17) gave us a terrible few years but now has "serious" BF and she's so much nicer! I think she likes feeling mature as she is in a relationship.

Stop "constantly reminding" her about HER responsibilities. If she forgets, she will have to deal with the consequences. Treating her like a little child is doing her no favors. If she wants to be treated like an adult, then she needs to behave like one.

aqua you are totally right I know but it's hard when you know they will have no food all day and twice a week those days are 7-8 with dance class. I know I have to let that happen tho.

It is hard but so is life, and you have to let her figure that out. If mummy is always there, always reminding her to eat, grab her keys, whatever, she will never learn how to be responsible and independent.