Crush on a woman but I’m straight ...advice please?

[Malibuandpineapple32]

Ok here goes I’ve only ever had relationships with men but my last one I couldn’t bring myself to have sex with him,it just turned my stomach (wasn’t him was totally me )
I have enjoyed sex with men before (I think )
I was introduced to a woman through a mutual friend who is gay.
I didn’t fancy her (so to speak) in a traditional way but I can’t get her out of my head.
We get on well,when we talk it’s that feeling I’ve had when talking to a man I fancy.
She has no clue and neither does anybody else.
I don’t know what this is..if I find her attractive as I would a man?
I’m confused
She has just started seeing someone and I’m jealous.
I keep checking her Facebook and when she comments on my posts I smile from ear to ear.
I get butterflies when I see her.
What’s going on?
For example if I ever did say anything to her ...would she be put off that I’ve never been with a woman ?
Shall I just wait till it blows over ?

She'd be flattered, I expect.

It sounds like you are developing feeling for this woman and there is nothing wrong with that.
Sexuality is complex and can change.
I personally have never been attracted to a woman but that doesn't mean it would never happen.
I would be confused (as you are) if it did as this would be a new emotional experience.
Maybe somebody who has experienced this will be along to offer better advice soon.

Im bisexual but have never had a LTR with a woman. I dont know if it really makes a difference but disclaimer anyway.

I wouldnt dissect the past too much. "Was I always gay?" Etc etc. It doesnt matter. As someone else said, sexuality is complex. And often dynamic.

She is seeing someone, so best stay out of it. Irrevant of genders involved. Same applies to being too involved on social media, etc. Dont feed the infatuation! Give yourself some distance.

If she becomes single at a later date and you are still interested. Be brave and say. She will probably be flattered. She is unlikely to approach you knowing you are straight (well, not knowing otherwise).

But yes she may be very reluctant even if she is into you, because committing to be with someone as their first same sex relationship is a risk. As you admit, how you feel is confusing to you...the person who sometimes suffers as you muddle through those feelings is the (same sex) partner when you realise you were mistaken about how you felt.

Confused op,you already have a thread up about this

I have in aibu but I thought putting something in realtionships might get some more advice really.