Sexless relationship from the start. Is there any hope?

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Both acknowledged that there was never a honeymoon period, we don't connect in the bedroom. The lack of connection and intimacy leads us both to feel unfulfilled.

We get on but it's not enough for me anymore. I feel like I share a bed with a friend.

Has anyone been in this situation, where there was no sexual spark to begin with? Am I flogging a dead horse or has anyone been able to turn a similar situation around?

No if there is no spark you will only ever be friends.

You say you are both unfulfilled and the lack of intimacy has always been an issue. You are friends. Accept that and move on.

This is not healthy for your relationship as you are unfulfilled. Call it a day

How long have you been together.

If you get on great and have loads in common and really enjoy each other but are both willing to do without the great sex then that's fine. However, if sex is important to one or both I'd leave things there and move on

I ended been through this and it didn't get any better. Five years, I gave it.

When it ended, I met someone else an while we are not together, I had the time of my life with him, in bed.

If you're young enough to start over, I'd start over x and keep him as a friend, I did with my guy.

I can't see this relationship lasting tbh. I think you should separate amicably.

I lasted 15 years. Lots of good times -after all, we are friends- but too much lost self esteem lost joy lost delight in each other, never mind the sex, it's the zero intimacy of any kind that did for me in the end

Your just friends, if there is no sexual chemistry and there has never been then there will never be any.

Cut your losses and move on. You can remain friends but you know deep down this is never going to be a romantic relationship.

When I finally woke up to this we got divorced. Lost a best friend. Gained a new life, husband, intimacy and relationship that's (for us) healthy and special.

Thank you all. Bucking I'm sadly ditto ... it's so sad, feels such a waste but I feel we both have the opportunity to meet someone that does fulfil us.

I was with a man recently- got on well, laughed loads and couldn’t take my hands off him until we got to the bedroom. He couldn’t keep it up and I stayed up all night trying with him m. Night on night I really tried. It became not about showing our feelings and attraction for each other but about getting the job done. He was rough sometimes and there was no kissing or hugging afterwards.
The relationship ended, he was so insecure and I was well tired. I miss him because I truly had a great friend in him but the lack of sex was a concern.

I lasted 6 years. It nearly broke me. It’s not just the lack of sex itself, it’s the sure knowledge that the one person in the world who’s supposed to find you attractive doesn’t.

What's the point of it?