Am I really going to get over the horror and sadness of my divorce?

[thisishard2]

And the trauma. And the terrible feelings of rejection (I instigated the divorce but H had ignored me for a long long time - literally).

Because it really really doesn’t feel like it .

I agree with itsadventure it won't be easy after years for them as his true colours will surface. You are better off getting to a stage where you don't care as it's boring to you and your life takes your focus.

You will get over it, as someone else says
Time is a great healer.

5 years for me, have dated but too be honest I love being on my own.

We come out with our battle wounds, some days it brings you down other days you wear them with pride.

No advice here but solidarity- it’s so painful, especially when they move on and become mr perfect with someone else, it takes my breath away sometimes. I try to remind myself of how dreadful the latter part of my marriage was - I’m sure one day I (and you) will look back and see this as a necessary step to a brighter future

Thanks for the messages.

I am sorry boywithapple - my solidarity back to you too. It is very painful.

Yes maybe one day I will realise it was for the best. At the moment I just feel hurt, guilty, ashamed, humiliated, scared, like an impostor, you name it.

Shocked, exhausted, traumatised, lonely, embarrassed, anxious, and as if it is all completely surreal.

Angry, bitter and resentful as well.