Have I been ghosted?

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I'm confused. Last conversation we had was about seeing each other again. He implied he wants us to be exclusive but I said no. It's a long distance thing and we won't be seeing each other again for two months. Last thing he said was goodnight gorgeous, I replied next day asking a question and saying I want to see him and no reply. That was two weeks ago.
I feel like confronting him as it's pretty rude not to reply.
On the other hand I don't really want to chase when I should be taking the hint. Im disappointed he couldn't just be honest
I'm pretty sure he will pop back up when the distance issue is resolved, I dont like feeling like I'm waiting for him and don't know if I should just play it cool when that happens or tell him to piss off.
I'm also wondering if maybe he's sulking because I said I don't want exclusively, I don't see it as ever being a serious relationship but i really enjoyed the time we spent together and do want to see him again. Maybe I played it too cool before and he wants me to care more.
So I don't know if I should just ignore him until I see him or something else?
Hope that makes sense.

Move on, he’s clearly not interested. Yes very rude and spineless of him - would you really want to date someone like that?

Either way, leave it.

If he is punishing you for not wanting him by sulking then he is not worthy of a text.

If he's ghosted you right after telling you he wanted you two to be exclusive then I suspect he just wanted YOU to be exclusive iyswim.

You basically told him you will be seeing other people. I am not sure what you expect really

I didn't tell him I will see other people.
I told him I dont care if he does. And I honestly don't..hes moving from where he lives at the end of term.
I expected us to carry on communicating as we had done the last time we couldn't see each other for three months.

You turned down exclusivity. Exclusivity= not seeing other people . You basically shunned him and are now fucked off he isn’t replying... can’t always have your cake and eat it.

I'd move on

I told him I'm not seeing anyone else and I'm not planing to but it would be stupid and unnecessary for us to be making promises like that to each other when I don't feel we're at that stage, we've only seen each other a few times it's impossible for us to see each other at the moment and I don't care if he sees other people.
Maybe I did play it too cool then. Will leave it and see how things fall when he's home.

For me after a first date I wouldn't date other people. It just feels wrong. Maybe he feels the same and with you saying no to exclusivity he may be wondering why.

After our first date we didn't think we would be seeing each other again for six months so no assumption of exclusively. We both went to a lot of effort and expense to see each other after 3months and spent 3days together.
If he's wondering anything he could just ask me.
I thought I had made myself pretty clear about wanting to see him again.

You said no to exclusivity and made an issue out of the distance and time thing and you still think he should still be in contact with you? What would be the point?

I'd be very hurt if I had asked for exclusivity and been rejected - like I wasn't 'enough' for my partner and he needed to see others.

I don't think I'd ghost someone because of it but I cetrainly wouldn't feel very polite and nice

But even if you said you have no plans to see anyone else it sounds like you were going to on the sly anyway

To him I mean

He proposed exclusivity; you turned him down; he has now decided not to contact you further.

I don't see an issue here. He hasn't done anything wrong. As someone else said, you can't have your cake and eat it too. If he wants exclusivity, and you don't, you don't then get to demand that he continues to see you.

You told him you don't care if he sees other people, which means you don't care much about him and don't see it as a relationship. Which is fine but pretty bad of you to complain about him not chasing you afterwards!

I didn't make an issue to him about the distance or time I'm just stating it here as a reason for us not being at the stage where I think being exclusive is necessary or realistic.
The point of us still talking is because we both want to see each other when we can. I I don't know, he has said he finds it frustrating to talk all the time but not be together.
I don't see it as a relationship, we've only met 6times. But I do care about him and want to see him again as soon as it's possible.
Maybe what I said came off as too cold or harsh then. Now Im wondering if I should reach out and make things clear? Or leave it until he's home.
For clarity the distance is thousands of miles.

maybe for him 6 dates is enough to see it as relationship - esp as you spent 3 days together. Possibly he decided quicker than you have, and is now a bit upset that you don't care whether he sees others.
If he actually asked you 'are we ok about seeing others, both of us?' - that's different, more like asking permission and hoping for a yes. But if he said 'do you want to be exclusive'?' or similar in shape of a suggestion, then it'd be hurtful for him if you didn't show you really welcomed it.

How long is this distance likely to go on for?

We've not had six dates we've met six times.
Two dates second one being three days.
He told me he's not been seeing others and I said I'm not but I don't think its my business what he does, which I can see now looks like telling him what I do is none of his either and I understand why he might be upset about it.
Distance issue will be resolved in a couple of months.

Well if it’s only a couple of months at there is potential for a future then I think it’s worth pursuing to make amends even if it ends up being a “call me when you’re back” situation. A couple of months isn’t that long.

really....I do not blame him, he's made the right choice