He's turning my daughter against me

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So a bit of a background my h drinks a lot everyday and I’ve posted on here before seeking for help etc . I’ve been to AA meetings etc but I don’t find them helpful as I can’t change him.I can’t leave just yet as I have no family however am studying and will be able to break free in 2 years or so. DD is 4. H is very verbally abusive towards me whenever drunk and bad mouths me to dd all the time. I’ve spoken to him about this that he needs to stop as its emotional abuse to both me and dd. Over the years now I’ve noticed that everytime we have an argument dd goes on his side. She’s totally against me and sides with her father . Whatever his plan was it’s obviously working. I know it’s not the right environment to raise her at all and I am planning to leave but I can’t afford to now. My fear is when I file for divorce I just don’t see her moving in with me but him.I don’t want to lose my child as I can see him fighting for custody as he’s got family here and I don’t plus he’s turned my daughter against me. I will fight too of course but what if she chooses to live with him?Where can I report this to be on record please for future use as I just don’t want to lose my dd ‘s custody. I’d rather die than live without her and everything I do is for her. I also don’t want to get stuck in this horrible marriage forever. Any advice will be appreciated

I’d try leave now rather than in 2 years time. If he is turning her against you, it will only be worse the longer it goes on.
I don’t think it is uncommon that a young child ‘sides’ with the abusive parent. The ‘nice’ parent (you) is always there for them and so they feel secure with you, but try hard to win the approval of the difficult parent.

You need to leave ASAP , claiming benefits if you need to is preferable to the life you are currently subjecting your dd to.

Thanks for replying will find out how I can leave and still afford to study etc before the damage gets worse

Are you at uni already? Speak to the money advisors there they will be able to help you with entitlements etc

@RandomMess
Yes I am. I rely on dh for childcare when I have to start placement at 7am, childminder starts at 8 . That’s why I was waiting to finish my degree first . However am terrified now if the damage will just get worse.

Well h not dh

Bottom line is your relationship with your DD is worth more than anything. There are options with studies, take a year out if you have to. It sounds to me like you need to get out ASAP.