To be blunt it’s highly likely there is another woman. Nobody simply leaves a family and wife “just because”. There is another person filling his apparent needs. And he is too blinded by lust to see reality. It’s called the fog. He is choosing short term fix over reality of marriage and commitment.
I’m going through the same thing in reverse. Suddenly she wants a seperation. Demanded it several times. Turns out she’s shagging her collegaue at lunchtime. Some scumbag who is 15 years older than her. I read all her texts.
He is using an app like whatsapp or Facebook that you need to figure out. If you want to at all. To be honest don’t waste your time.
My advice is to put your heart to one side, and let your brain take control. Your gut has already told you what’s going on. It’s very hard to do. It takes months for your brain to understand what the heart wants and the reality of rejection.
It’s been a month since my STBXW moved out. And i enjoy the freedom and time with my son without the criticism etc.
My advice is to concentrate on all the reasons you were never right together. I’m betting there are lots.
Don’t dwell on the good times. Focus on the bad.
The reality is your a decent person and your non-communicative husband is choosing another over the family you have together. Let him go and suddenly the wooden sooon prize of an affair partner is no longer exciting when it’s all out in the open. Do you think she knows all the rules you’ve built together? Nope. Will she be interested in a family life when she knows he’s a cheater? Nope. Will she be as good in bed in 5 years time? Nope. Will he like meeting and befriending all her family and friends? Screw that. Too much effort.
I’d rather be single than worry everyday what bloke she’s sleeping with at lunchtime.
Your happyness will come. Give it time.