My DH and MIL have always had a difficult relationship but fell out about a year and a half ago. None of us have spoken since and our children have had absolutely nothing to do with that side of the family.
My DH's parents are divorced and both remarried. There are lots of fall outs and regular drama, none usually including DH.
He reached breaking point last year and decided he needed a break. None of us were contacted again, until recently. I received a friend request on fb from MIL but no message.
We have researched some of her behaviours and believe she has some narcissistic trates; passive agressive, controlling, plays games, gas lighting, DH brother can do no wrong where DH can do no right.
She is very demanding and everything is on her terms. She has a way of manipulating a situation and spends a lot of time getting people on side.
My husband didn't want to be involved anymore but had expected his DM to contact him or me in the weeks following their fall out but it never happened.
I want to do what's best for our family and my DH but im not sure how to respond to her request.
DH is cynical and thinks it's more of her games. She will be able to tell people/ family that she has attempted to resolve things without actually apologising. I don't think there will ever be much of an apology but it would be nice for everyone to have an honest relationship. I don't know if it is possible to keep her at arms length to protect ourselves and keep the peace or just continue to focus on our little family and remain out of contact.
I also don't know what to say to her re the friend request..? I did wonder if it was sent accidentally..
Sorry to ramble! Any advise would be greatly appreciated x