hello all, I'm new here and I'm going to have a rant. I need feedback on how to deal with this issue of an interfering mother in law. I am pregnant, over half way. it should be the most amazing and precious time for me to enjoy, but instead of happiness I am feeling anything but. I feel that there is literally this one person sucking the very goodness out of my experience!! here's the latest development, and one I need assistance on broaching her about in the coming weeks.
so OH and I are for a trip a few months after baby gets here, we were told its the best time to go as the baby is able to easily adapt to the small temporary change. its only a few nights anyway. so, I have it arranged months now that my parents will be watching the child in the time we are gone...this is for two reasons. 1) there are two of there, therefore night time feeds will be easier in turns...2) because it will cause the least upset having the baby go from one house to another to sleep night about. mother in law has been aware of these plans from the hour they were put in place....it was never an issue at all....until this week, 3 months later when she had an opportunity to talk to my partner on his own without me there. and during that conversation she put her insistence onto him, playing on his sensitive side with her pity party routine. she's widowed, and this is used to emotionally blackmail him into caving. even though he had told her that these plans were in place, as she rightly knew!! twice her spoke with her in ragards to it and now shes "putting her foot down"!!!
this was brought to my attention and from finding out about it 4 days ago I'm so so mad...I have been left so upset, that she has the audacity to undermine a decision that had been made and was known to her for ages. now she is trying to use my child (that has yet to be born) as a pawn in her little game of control. I am putting my foot down but OH is torn, torn between her as shes old and alone and me because I'm his OH... we have had words over this, I have had tears and heated words exchanged all because of her selfishness. she is such a cheeky so and so....I cant stand her at this present minute in time... she had done something similar years ago, where she tried to muscle in on our relationship etc which almost came between me and OH then too. he's the "baby" of their house, and boy doesn't she let me know everyday!!
how can I broach this without OH falling out with me if I add additional pressure for him to not fold at her demand. he said we will get it sorted and not to worry, but I don't want this passing another week without her being addressed on the matter. what can I do (within the law lol) please