Do i owe him an explanation?

[Northernclemency]

I've been dating a guy for about 2.5 months, we haven't had a conversation about exclusivity.

He's been kind to me but I don't think we're right for each other long term partly due to disagreement about some.things like visiting strip clubs and partly as we just dont have a huge amount in common.

I also feel a bit disrespected about the way he's spoken about a woman at work (although we're not exclusive, I don't tell him all about other guys I meet or find attractive. Neither of us ask)

Ghosting is awful and I'd like to.avoid that but what is the bare minimum I can do in these circs to end things politely without getting into a conversation? Would a text be really bad?

I'd text.....my meeting up to have a chat,didn't go as planned . Just text,much easier.....

Ooh Bexter what happened?

Oh no is everything ok Bexter?

Oh just I'm an idiot! Met him,and he was being lovely and sweet(always is),but I hardly see him,and I'm bored,and anyway never went through with ending it. So I'm stuck,don't know if right decision or not

How about you open....any update?

Stupid autotype! Open,meant to say op

You mean you're still seeing someone you're bored with, bexter?!

@category12! Errr,I don't know if I'm bored,or we just don't spend enough time together....

Oh that meant to say @category12 yes!

Well this is doomed and unfair to both of you, put him out of his misery and let him move on with someone who cares a little about him

This is why you should end it by text. I don't see why people think that's so offensive.

I thought that ghosting was just phasing someone out without telling them, even by text?

I would rather be ghosted than strung along as an “I’m stuck” topic on mumsnet. Poor blole

After 2.3 months of non exclusive dating a text would be plenty. ‘Hi, this isnt working out for me. I wish you well”

Dumping by text is cowardly unless there are extreme circumstances. Ring him, be concise and to the point then end the call.

I disagree - lots of people text or message a lot in their relationships. If it's your primary method of contact, for the dating and mating, what suddenly makes it unsuitable for ending a relationship? It's a funny sort of snobbery that.

I almost never make personal phone calls. Hate the phone so it's like saying you have to jump through a hoop to end a relationship.

Nah, definitely a quick phone call. Integrity is everything.

Nah text,I actually think is kinder. Saves awkwardness on both sides too.