Did you LTB after seeking advice on MN?

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And if you did, are you happy with that decision?

Just a Sunday morning ponder. I'd guess that if people do get out of toxic relationships after posting here then it's probably been the final push or confirmation they needed, and they would have got there eventually anyway.

But perhaps there are people who have actually left solely due to wisdom dispensed hereabouts. Anyone?

I think it can start a stream of consciousness, I left before I discovered mn, but it’s helped me to unpick how abusive the relationship was, and hopefully to never end up in the same situation.

I sometimes think I would have either left or really pushed for changed a lot earlier if I knew of mumsnet years ago.

But you can’t change the past.

I think when women find this place it makes the lightbulb switch on. You can look to friends and family for support but they generally project their own 'stuff' all over your situation. For me personally, talking about my situations on here really helped me clarify my own thoughts and also boosted my self esteem to say no, I'm not living like this. In addition, you can usually find women being directed to the right literature and resources, which is also excellent for building the confidence and self esteem to leave a bad relationship

No, I never asked advice on here beforehand (cos I knew what MN would say and I didn't want to hear it ). I never told anyone in real life either until I was ready to leave.

Be careful answering this question - whatever your motives OP a thread like this can be rich pickings for tabloids

For me it was a journey, and MN was part of that.

I started to look online when I couldn't figure out what was happening in my marriage as nothing made sense and it was getting worse.All well meaning family assume "normal" relationship stuff but unless you have been with an abusive partner you just don't understand it.

Abuse is irrational and people need help to clear the fog.I also learned terms like gaslighting and was pointed to books by Lundy and Patricia Evans.All of these resources validate your feelings and clear the fog so you know that you can't fix abusive people.

I think an anonymous forum can be a very powerful support mechanism when you can’t talk in real life - perhaps to friends or family for fear of repercussions.

I certainly have had my eyes opened about people’s interior lives and how easily it is to get youreslef into a psychologically bullied situation where you feel at fault (luckily not myself but it has educated me to help women in real life and understand some do what goes on behind scenes)

I think the advice on posts generally can be a bit mixed on one post you will find the majority of people suggesting the dh is a cheating narsassistic abusive gasslighter with a minority suggesting the issue could be one of poor communication. The wisdom has to be taken with a pinch of salt I think.