Ghosted

[HopelessWithNumbers]

I think I’ve been ghosted but I don’t know how you know!

I have anxiety problems, mainly connected with loved ones dying, so of course this is where my mind is going.

He’s not on FB. I’ve met his Mum a couple of times but she lives miles away from me (as does he). And I wouldn’t want to ring her up (she’s nearly 90) and say ‘is ** alive or dead?’

How do people manage this?

Just assume he's a twat and move on

When did you last hear from him? How long have you been together?

Together for 15 months. Only see each other once or twice a month because of distance / work.
We speak everyday & he always responds to messages.
Last contact was Friday which wasn’t a nice conversation. Things have been difficult recently.
I know Friday isn’t long ago but it’s the change in behaviour.
I just need to stop worrying that he’s dead. But my MH is making that difficult. And of course he knows about that so it makes it doubly cruel (if he’s s not dead )

Did you argue on friday? Maybe he wants some space from your relationship

Not ghosted, just a liar
Feels much better to know though. At least it was resolved quickly.

Oh blimey op that doesn't sound good. What happened?

Phoned me and gave a story that was an obvious lie. So I challenged him and he couldn’t come up with anything!
Things were going wrong anyway but I just wish people would be a bit more straightforward.

Oh OP :(
He's actually done you a massive favour ! You deserve better than him

Long distance relationships rarely work, and in any event your MH isn’t conducive at all to that kind of relationship

He clearly wants more than someone he sees a few times a year, beat it ends now and you can focus on yourself and vanquishing these anxiety issues.