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Ending a toxic marriage

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changedmynamex2 · 29/04/2018 08:04

So after a very up and down 7 yr marriage where we have split up without splitting up dozens of times this time looks like it's really it. We said 4 weeks ago we were splitting up but he's stayed in the house during the week (for his business) and stayed with friends over the weekend.

It's been horrendous.

I have tried NC but there have had to be some practical discussions. He's leaving today but rather than talk about the permanency of the situation he's just said " I thought I'd move out for a few weeks see how things are"

I've told him he's an arrogant fucker if he thinks he had all the power and control in this.

I'm in turns angry upset relieved. Feel like I'm living in limbo.

How do I force myself to accept this is it.

We still love each other but don't like each other. Really poor at communicating. Fault on both sides.

I'm exhausted by it all.

No one else involved and no DCs together. We both have older DCs from a previous relationship.

I've forgotten what it's like to be single and am both scared and relieved at the prospect.

I feel like I'm going crazy

OP posts:
grandmainmypocket · 29/04/2018 21:06

I have no advice I'm sorry but just wanted to wish you well.
If there's fault on both sides I guess you can only work on yourself. It's hard though at such an emotional time.

changedmynamex2 · 29/04/2018 22:40

Thank you @grandmainmypocket am so lost

OP posts:
idlikemoresleep · 29/04/2018 22:49

I know what it's like to be in a toxic relationship.
Not advice as such but as much as it's a cliche time is a great healer - that's very true.
Give yourself time to heal, take each day at a time and be kind to yourself
You'll come out of this stronger and happier xx

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