Partner wants another child, for me to rely on him again?

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Last year I was having issues with my partner, over me getting a promotion and ending up in me earning more than him. He didn’t like me earning more and wanted me to quit one of my jobs (I work two jobs, one from home). I did actually post on here about it. In the end, we worked around the earning problem, and I didn’t quit either of my jobs!
Up until last month, everything was going smoothly till he turned around and mentioned my salary being higher than his, and how he feels inadequate over it. The conversation did end up quite malicious. Anyway, since then he has been absolutely insistent that we try for another baby. We have one dd, and after she was born we both chose to not have any more. But all of a sudden he’s changed his mind, he is bugging for us to stop contraception, and that we try. He says It’s not fair for me to not want to have another child with him, and that I should do this for him. He then went on to say that if I did become pregnant, during maternity leave I will be able to rely on his income. As soon as he said that I knew he wasn’t wanting a child, he wants me to be vulnerable again, relying on him. I don’t even know what to do about this whole situation, I’m so freaked out by it all. He is away on a stag do till tomorrow afternoon, and I want to have a conversation with him about it all, what do I say??!!

Sorry for the long post!

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What Secretsquirrel252 said X a zillion

What a tiny little man he is, his masculinity so threatened by a woman earning more money than him. Do you really want to be with a man like this? Do you want him to be a role model for your daughter? No, don't have any more children just so that he can feel like "a man". In fact, consider if you would not be better off without him around.

How misogynistic for him to be upset that a woman is earning more than him. What is so special about him that he can't open his eyes to the fact that he earns less than a female? I couldn't be with a man like this. I earn more than DP and he's never even mentioned it. Just that he's proud of me that's all.

I think you need to really think about why you are together at all.
He sounds like an awful role model for your DC.

He clearly has no respect for you as an individual as he us trying to pressure you in to doing something HUGE with life long consequences for you all.

He sounds very controlling.
He is not an insecure little boy that needs pandering too, but an awful mysogynistic man with little or no positive regard for anyone else.

I think you have to be strong and tell him you don’t want another child. Get a reliable method of birth control (someone I know microwaved his gf’s pills!) and have the conversation about salary comparisons. He sounds like an insecure controlling idiot.

If you rely on the pill you need to assume he’s tampering with it. It’s very easy to do. Go and get yourself some reliable BC before you do anything else. IUD or implant.

Awful awful man. I couldn't be with someone like this. Please keep strong, get on some kind of reliable contraception if you're not already, and think hard about whether you want to stay with such a misogynistic, short-sighted, disrespectful fragile little prick.

It’s not fair for me to not want to have another child with him

Life isn't fair, cupcake, and going back on agreements doesn't make it any fairer. He needs to get a fucking grip on his self-confidence and man the fuck up.

It's bizarre that he actually wants a harder life for you all, simply because his ego can't cope with you earning more than he does.