So gullible

[Whoknows86]

Dating a guy couple of months...seen he was still on POf during the week so I spoke to him about it he said about us being official etc and he would remove himself off only problem is that he had lied about being on it and I thought we were official so it’s made me a bit wary of him...

Past few days he’s been telling me how he wants us to be exclusive bf/gf and I said I’d have a think. Spent last night together was lovely so I text him today and said that I wanted to make a proper go of it and his reply was...I’ll wb properly when I get a minute. He’s using me for sex isn’t he? So annoyed at myself for believing his crap he asked me and now he’s making out like I’ve asked him. Too old for this shit!!!

I’ll wb properly

What's wb?

@SandyY2K write back I think

I don't read that and automatically jump to the conclusion that he's using you for sex he might have been on PoF for a number of reasons. Even if I had met someone new I might check to see if anyone had messaged me out of curiosity. Your guy may also be right and he may be meeting other women. You just don't know. But by saying he will reply when he has a minute doesn't mean he's just using you for sex. Maybe he's busy? Think you need to give it a bit more time op to gain a bit of clarity.

Also, how do you know he was on PoF?

I think you're jumping the gun a bit.

It's not unreasonable for him to still be on a dating site if you haven't both decided to be exclusive. He may have been up to his ears in work when you messaged him but didn't want to not reply.

However, having said that, my stock response to being asked whether I wanted to date someone exclusively would be that I'd definitely be willing to talk about it once they felt ready to suspend their profiles on whatever dating sites they were on.