DH appears to deliberately doing the opposite to what I suggest to do

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We have been married for 15 years and have three children.
I have noticed in the last year that DH appears to go against most things I suggest. There has been nothing major but just lots of little things and it's starting to wind me up.

For example, today going to the shops and DH decides to drive, I mentioned that there were roadworks along the route (I go that way to work) and said it may be best to go a different way as queues have been really bad. We get in the car, had a discussion about what the roadworks, and then DH precedes to go that way anyway.

When we arrived at the shops (following a journey taking twice as long due to the roadworks!) the car park was busy.
I noticed a car pulling out in the next row to us and mentioned that there was a space, but DH decided to reverse and drive up another row to look for a space rather than go to the one I saw.
I questioned why he did this, and he states that he was already reversing anyway. This is completely untrue, we were stationary.

This probably all sounds petty, and not a big deal, but this is happening all the time and it is really starting to upset me.
I do not nag, nor do I tell him what to do.
In fact, I think it's the other way round. I am always asking him for help in making decisions, even down to buying the children's clothing.
My confidence in making a decision is so low, and I feel the need to run everything past him as I'm worried about making a mistake.
He does not ask for this to happen and does not complain when I ask.
So when I make decisions or suggest things and it's completely ignored I feel so insignificant.
I know it's my problem but I really do not know how to overcome this.

We have not had a huge argue about what happened this morning over these two minor episodes, but I think it's just the fact it keeps happening.

Do you think you micro manage a bit?

It doesn't sound like he is deliberately doing the opposite from what you suggest.

The examples you give are both situations in which the situation is one in which a number of choices are options and it's perfectly reasonable to have a different view/take a different route/park elsewhere.

I would expect a complaint of deliberately doing the opposite of what you suggest in more a black and white situation - like

painting the living room red or green, you say green, he paints it red.

If you are worried about it, test it out in more of a black/white situation and see what happens.

From the examples you give, sounds like you are over thinking it a bit and are a bit oversensitve.

Stop asking him about everything. If you can’t even buy the kids some new clothes without having to ask him to review your choices then a) he’s probably really irritated and b) he won’t listen to your suggestions because by your account you don’t ever believe in yourself. As in, if you think you can make a mistake with regard to a kid’s t-shirt (where the only wrong outcome is buying it too small), why would he think you’re in the right when it comes to a driving route. Start doing more things yourself and having confidence in your choices.

How can your confidence in decision making be low, yet you bandy about other opinions then get cross they arent taken?