Hello ladies, I’m hoping you can help me. My elder son gets married next month and I believe I have a pretty good relationship at present with my future daughter in law. We have lots of fun together as a family when I see her and my son and she makes my son very happy; which is very important to me. I have done my best over the years they have been together to build my relationship with her both alongside and separate to that which I have with my son. I make a point of always greeting her first whenever I see them and I keep in contact with her separately (although not incessantly). I have stood back from the wedding planning apart from when asked for my opinion although I have taken an interest and have made a substantial financial contribution.
I’m aware that the mother in law / daughter in law relationship can be difficult but my husband’s mother died when he was a very little boy so I have never experienced it from the daughter in law’s perspective and I don’t have any daughters myself. Any advice you may have on how to be a good mother in law would be most gratefully received, I really don’t want to get this wrong.
Thank you. :-)