Ex and I are in the process of separating. After years of abuse, verbal, emotional and physical I have finally snapped yesterday and told him he can go.
We have children. Last night youngest woke up crying. I climbed into his bed to soothe him, but ended up falling asleep with him. I wake up to this text from my ex, which was sent about 2am.
It reads: I am truly sorry for snatching at you yesterday morning, I have found myself struggling in our relationship, I love you to bits and fancy the pants off you, but your no sex insistence affects my behaviour towards you, it affects my sleep and my wellbeing. It probably has no effect on yourself. I know you have issues with me and some articles insist on refraining from sex, but to me sex helps builds bonds, it is a stress reliever, it is a natural enhancer of happiness biologically, it has many positives, it’s pivotal in a long term happiness in a relationship for most.
A sexless relationship affects your self esteem, makes you unsure and doubtful and in many cases like mine, makes you frustrated. I would have done anything to make you happy and keep this family together, all I wanted was a partner to try to do the same.
What would you make of it given that we've not had sex for months as he physically repulses me. I have replied with my genuine thoughts and feelings to it but I'd like to know if I've perceived it in a normal way. I don't know anymore.
Thanks all.