Can I prevent my abusive ex from buying a house next to me

[Sylviecakes]

I have successfully divorced and moved on from my drunk, abusive ex. We have to maintain contact for the kids, but he still thinks I'm his mum, he's pretty hopeless at organising the kids so I end up doing it all so he continues the contact (a deliberate move I think). He thinks I'm still his wife/mum and hasn't understood that I have moved on. I've bought a house and expect to move in a few months with my new partner. The ex has found out and has started the process of buying the house next door. I can't have him that close as he was violent, abusive, and a drunk and will ruin my life. If he continues I will have to pull out of my purchase and lose a hefty deposit unless I can prevent him from being near me.
Is there a legal precedent other than a restraining order for this type of issue? Should I contact the builders agents? (it's a new shared ownership build) can the council get involved? Are there any groups that deal with this sort of thing. Hopefully you can help... He's a total TW*T and I need him out of my life.
Thanks

If you could get a solicitor with Family Law experience, they might be your best bet.

And this may sound sexist, but a female solicitor might understand your position better. You never know with men, they may have had bad experiences with exes and 'access' which they could project onto you and hence dismiss your valid concerns. Good luck with it all. I'd lose my marbles in your shoes. x

I'd also approach the builders and explain the situation they may feel sympathetic towards you and dona real in another property in another estate.

Good luck

Good luck with this OP.

I'm sorry, but a builder is not going to want to get involved in a 'domestic'. Don't attempt that. You're leaving yourself open to potential defamation suits particularly as you have no proof of anything apparently. Defamation is about proof. You have none. Do not approach the builders/agents etc.

This is a legal matter which should be dealt with through the appropriate channels i.e. a solicitor and recourse to police in the event your advice is to make a complaint.
A wink and a nod will not cut it, where a builder will potentially lose a sale.
Stop being silly.

If he's buying under a shared ownership scheme, then he will be stuck there for awhile, as I believe moving out of them can be tricky and long-winded. So if you have no luck in stopping him buying, if you speak to the developre maybe they'll transfer your deposit to another development of theirs and you then won't lose it, but he won't be able to move quickly.

report him as a stalker.. get a restraining order!

I think you might be surprised at the builder's sympathies - you never know. I'd certainly ask first if you could transfer your deposit to another development.

Good luck OP. In the end of the day if you can't stop him buying, I would actually lose the deposit rather than have him next door.

Definitely get legal advice but how on earth did he even know where you were moving to? I know you have to be in contact for the kids but as he's violent and abusive surely all contact should be at an absolute minimum?

I keep seeing this time and time again; the idea that because a parent has been abusive, or has drug/alcohol issues means that the courts will protect the child by preventing or limiting contact. This is often not the case. Plenty of neglectful, abusive parents continue to see their children unsupervised because it is deemed to be in the childs best interests .

Op, I hope you find a solution.