Staying safe while separating

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I’ve got another thread on here, where I have had so much support in getting my thoughts and strength together to leave an emotionally abusive 23 year marriage to my possibly narcissistic OH - thank you so much for your support.

It’s fair to say that I am far too trusting, and tend to see the good in everything, and put other’s needs before my own.

So, the next little while as I get the hell out will be a very vulnerable time for me.

I’d be grateful for your advice - what do I need to do to stay safe and protect myself and the children - in practical terms, legally and financially?

I’ve changed the PIN on my phone and bank card. What else?
Thank you x

I moved important things,birth certificates etc and photos I wanted to keep to my aunties.

Good job I did because I wasn't allowed to collect anything else, once I left. I had the clothes on my back and whatever of my sons I could grab

You should pack your documents, passport, birth certificate etc and those of the children. Make contact with Womens Aid if you haven't already, and with the police. It is a very dangerous time. Are you going to a refuge?

Try Rights of Women. It is difficult to get through and their hours are limited. Keep trying. You can get your benefits in your own name. Tell HMRC the situation. Tell them anyway.

It would be sensible to go through Womens Aid or an IDVA through the police to find a specialist solicitor.

Emotional abuse? Seek help from women shelters?
Ignore and avoid? Tell people you trust? Get out of the house and stay elsewhere?
Legal advice on any property?
Could you rent to live elsewhere?
Request communication to be by email or text ?