What have I done wrong?

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Feeling a bit down lately about my so called friends. I don't have many and non of them live close. It was my birthday on Thursday and not one of them contacted me to wish me a happy birthday. I feel like it's always me that makes contact to how they are and when I do I get the impression they're too busy to talk.
The other thing that annoys me is they are all on Facebook but I'm not (hate it!), get the impression I'm being punished for not being on and that's their only way of communicating with me.
Had enough now of making the effort so I'm going to stop contacting them.

Perhaps you’ve just grown apart from them? It happens, feels shit though.
Look into making new friends, any interests you have that could lead you to meet new people?

I've been off Facebook for a month. No one has commented but always happy to moan if I put I had a bad day. And I thought the whole point of friendship was to look out for one another. I'm sorry to hear how you were treated on your birthday. Just don't bother making an effort for others in future

I've decided not to bother anymore, they know where I am but only time will tell. I'm a single mum, so busy at work and home life I don't have much time for going out any interests I have are in my garden so I'm not meeting new people and my job is mainly with children so have no friends through work either. I'm going to concentrate on my kids now. I get the impression that my friends don't understand my home life and find it hard some months to afford to go out but I do try when they can be bothered which is hardly ever. Ah well!!!

I feel exactly the same! I don't have many friends either and I feel they can't be bothered with me! Are you local to Hampshire by any chance?

I’m sure there’ll be groups in your area that will help you. There’s a group of ladies in my area that post a diary of what they’re up to and make new members very welcome. I also joined the gym and go to classes. Much more sociable then just the gym and I’ve made lots of friends.

I'm based in Lancashire I'm afraid. I use to be a member of a choir but there was no one near my age. Just going out for a coffee and a natter would be nice.

Sorry you're feeling like this. Could it be that they just completely forgot it was your birthday? Not great, I know, but life does get busy. And if you're not on Facebook they wouldn't get a reminder. So they all use Facebook messenger for group chats? If so, this could be why you get left out, it may well not be intentional or that they're trying to punish you.

I'm a single Mum too and most of the friends I have now are women I met through the DC. Have you tried to get to know any of the other Mums?