He sort of choked me during kissing

[Choked]

If a guy you were seeing for a couple of months (have not had sex with) and you were kissing, he wraps one hand around your neck and presses with his thumb just under your trachea. You definitely feel it. It blocks some air but you could still breathe (70%). It lasted a minute or so.

You later ask him why he did that? He responds that he didnt realise where his thumb was and that he was pressing. He adds that he moved when he realised he was doing it.

What would you think of this? Was it even choking?

@DontDrinkDontSmoke

I’d never let anyone I’d met that night choke me. But a long term lover who I trust and who respects me, yes I enjoy it. I like the sensation of it, and I like the submission, giving over control. It gives me a kind of heightened awareness. But done properly it’s careful, not violent. People shouldn’t be throttling each other!

Genuine question, no need to answer...what do you enjoy about it?

Lowered oxygen can heighten orgasm. The choker also can enjoy power/control fantasies. It’s a dangerous game though - it takes very little pressure in just the right place to disrupt blood supply to the brain and then you can get death or stroke very easily. Any hands round/pressure on neck is a risk for death or serious injury.

Not something I’d be into, and one for as clary says ONLY those who consent, discuss etc.

@DontDrinkDontSmoke

I'm happy to elaborate. It's a submissive act for me. I enjoy the power exchange, the feeling helpless but it takes a lot of trust and communication. The one and only man I did it with I trusted because he gave me no reason not to.

It's not for everyone and as news proves if it's done wrong it can be fatal. He sounds like a creeper

He's been watching too much Pornhub .

Don't change your mind

Don't go back

Please

I was with someone who did this sort of thing. And it did not end well.

Don't see him again

Another twat who watches too much porn. You should have told him to Fuck Right Off at the time (though I guess you were too confused/shocked).

Haven't read the whole thread but FGS bin him now if you haven't already.

Kissing someone you care about is done with gentleness, tenderness mixed in with a bit of passion. Pressing your throat is the complete opposite of these. He sounds like he could be a very violent man longer term. I’d get out now why you can