If your OH has really disappointed you...

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Did you get over it? My DH has done some things that have been quite irresponsible and thoughtless. I can understand that he did it because he was going through a very stressful time and that he is trying to fix it but I am finding it impossible to forgive him while it remains unfixed. Will it be different when he sorts himself out? Or will this be something that drives a permenanht edge between us? I live him but I don't feel like I can rely on him anymore.

It depends what it is really, I think you just need to be as honest with him as you possibly can so he can understand exactly how you feel about this. But every relationship has rough patches, this might just be one of them. DH and I didn't speak for a month once (this was when we didn't live together). It wasn't even over anything serious, I'd simply gotten sick of always being the one to apologise even when i felt I hadn't done anything wrong. I was really starting to think this was the end for us when he called me out of nowhere one night. We talked it over and things didn't immediately go back to the way they were but slowly things got better and well we're still together now.

We haven't got to the point of not talking yet so if you came back from that I guess I don't really have an excuse. I'm just worried because once my feelings cool towards a person it tends to be permenant. I have talked to him about it and he is genuinely apologetic and trying to make amends etc. I can't really say that his behaviour now is any thing less than acceptable. I just worry that my affection for him won't recover and then what?