Crush on the boss

[aliasjoey]

I’ve had this boss for a couple of years. Nice enough, friendly but detached.

Suddenly, a couple of weeks ago I got a weird feeling. I was under a bit of emotional stress, and he sent a supportive email. As soon as I read the email, I got the feeling. (It was a standard manager-making-sure-the-staff-are-okay response, nothing inappropriate) I’m married - and anyway he is not my type.

Unfortunately I know this feeling, I got sucked into an affair a few years ago and remember well how that emotion just knocks you for six. That feeling that someone cares.

I know, rationally, that it means nothing - he’s just being a decent boss - but maybe it’s reminded me of someone else. I feel like an idiot. [a crush?!] I’m too old for this.

Or maybe it’s drawn attention to the fact my marriage is a sham...

Your marriage is a sham if you’ve already strayed once and are now lining up to do it again.

What’s keeping you married?

You seem to have a pretty good insight into what's happening - luckily! This is clearly a warning to fix your life and get more love and care into it, somehow or another.

Tell your husband about these feelings for someone else. That should put a different perspective on them and should stop them in their tracks.

TALK about it with the person it will affect the most. It's awful, but it's better than talking about it after something happens, when you get caught. Please don't do that to another person. Have some respect for your husband and yourself.

Because you are in an unhappy marriage you are tempted, again; please make yourself single so you are free to explore other relationships without the worry of actually breaking someone's heart.