Moving in new boyfriend

[princessbride17]

I split with ex just over a year ago. I met my new partner 4 months ago. He has met my kids (as a friend) and am building this up slowly and carefully before I tell them. I would like him to move in with use eventually but I still live in the house my ex jointly owns.
I ended the relationship and he agreed to move out if I could cover the mortgage on my own, which I've been doing for the last year. The house has been on the market all this time but its struggling to sell.
I didn't want to make this commitment to anyone else until I was living in my own place but I have no idea how long its going to take for the house to sell and I feel like my life is on hold.
I also suspect my ex will NOT be happy about this at all. I know he doesn't contribute to the mortgage but is it morally wrong to move my new partner in when the house still belongs to my ex?
What are your thoughts on this?

Thank you for all the replies. Just to clarify I'm NOT thinking of moving him in now, I guess I was getting carried away looking further down the road for 'what ifs' if my house doesn't sell.
I keep panicking I;m going to be stuck in this house for another year,. and YES my life is on hold as I feel like Im still living in HIS house and he still has keys and a say in it which I hate.
It has made me think I need to slow things down though. Yes 4 months isn't long so I will not be moving him into this house, I will at least wait for the house to sell and then see how things go from there.
As for introducing the kids, they have met him briefly once (as a friend) and might meet him again soon but under no circumstances will I be telling them he's a boyfriend. I feel its important to guage if they like him/get on with him because if they don't, it won't be going anywhere.

If your ex is using his set of keys inappropriately, talk to your lawyer. I don't think he actually has the right to barge in when he pleases, although he has a right of entry. I think it turns into more of a must give notice thing when you're legally separated.

"In law there is balance to the right to enter the marital home when you no longer live there and the right of the resident spouse to a quiet life, this is underpinned by article 8 of the human rights act which says all have the right to quiet enjoyment of their own home".

I moved in with my fiancé after two months and things have worked out amazingly but..... we don’t have young children ours are over the age of 18 and don’t live with us!

Only you know if it's time for him to move in OP. It's more difficult when children are involved. My partner moved in with me and my three kids after 8 months and I was 6 months pregnant with his baby. All is going amazingly well and now married. Not the norm but it worked for us.

I moved in with my partner after 3 months. It's now been years and there's not a day I regret it
Doesn't work for everyone of course.

He also had children which I met before we lived together (although they were slightly older and had asked to meet me!) We get on amazingly and I adore them.

Not everyone's situation is the same. You know what's right for you.

I can't comment on the issue with your ex though. I'd be concerned about his reaction too.

category12 he's never let himself in thankfully but threatened to at the beginning of the separation. He refuses to return his keys though.

My DC are 10 and 4 so still young so I understand people's concerns. He has has an 8yo so he knows about the affect on children himself.

I'm glad I posted this though as I probably do have to take a step back and make sure I really know him. That is why I'm slowly letting him meet the kids (as a friend) so that, eventually when I tell them who he is they will (hopefully) be happy about it.

The moving in thing is too soon though, you're right. Much as I would like this to happen, i need to sell the house as a priority first.

Congratulations to all the people who moved in early with someone and it was a roaring success. The issue is that it takes a good while to know someone and it is a lot safer to wait and see, especially when there are children involved

Of all home setups, a home where children live with a male who is not related to them, is the most likely to include abuse of those children.

The fact that sometimes it's not a disaster doesn't mean it's a good idea. There's a scarily high incidence of child abuse whenever a new man moves in with a mother and her kids.

There is nothing lost by waiting. Why take the risk when it's not necessary for any reason.

My mum and Dad split when I was 18 and she eventually met someone and he stopped over. I hated having another man in the house. I was used to my dad being there. I felt I couldn't go in the living room when they were there. Never had a bath when he was round. I realise was 18 and could have moved out by then. I never told my mum this and was pleasant to the man. I can't imagine what a child would think. I'm not meaning you OP just in general. I'm with my kids father so I can't comment on that and no one knows what they would do unless they've been in the situation but my kids feel safe at home and I can't imagine them feeling uncomfortable in the place they should be able to relax.