Counselling - does this sound right?

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Just started couples counselling, I'm ready to call it a day for various reasons ( no infidelity or anything like that) DP isn't. So a few sessions in and all we've done is talk about our childhoods, families and upbringing.
Which we're both aware of - each others I mean. But nothing about the disagreements or the arguments that we have over and over on same subject. I think ( know) that DP puts work before me and the kids, DP feels I don't appreciate the financial contribution that DPs work brings. I also work but not to the same level, work PT to accommodate kids/family etc.
Is this usual for counselling? Makes me feel that we aren't actually addressing any of the problems we have!

The.counsellor is finding what your famliy of origin was like as this is where we get ideas of what famliy life / relationship are like.
For example
If your DH dad was a workaholic he might see that as what dad's do.
Or
You might have seen your parents have a lovely equal relationship and think that is a relationship is about.
But ask your counsellor to explain why you do this stuff.

Stick with it.

We went to couples counselling following my DHs affair. I found this frustrating, but some crucial stuff came out with helped us both understand more about why it happened

Speak to the counellor about there approach and that you are finding it frustrating. Ask about how they like to work. If it doesnt work for you find a different one. What type of marriage counselling are you having? What are the counsellors credentials?

What we go through as children greatly influences how we act as adults. That's just fact. It's very useful for your counsellor to gather that information.