To give the ring back or not?

[jessicasmummy04]

My ex wants my engagement ring back bit I really want to keep it. I know he's be furious if I did and has TOLD me in no uncertain words he wants it back but I'm just not ready to give it up..

He ended it so you can keep the ring.

Look into the law in your area. Where I live it depends who breaks it off:

1. The gift was conditional so if she doesn’t fulfill her end of the bargain and marry him, she loses the ring.

1. If it’s the man who calls it off then too bad, she gets to keep it. He didn’t follow through but there was an expectation on her part that he would and she accepted the gift in good faith.

1. If they mutually agree to split then all gifts given by either party are returned, so he gets the ring back.

He sounds awful. At least keep it for the party then see how you feel.

Why would your friends be happy you've split up ? He does sound unstable to call off an engagement over a joke... I am guessing this is not the first time he has upset you and your friends think he's a knob...

If this is the case, even more reason to give back the ring and take the support of those friends who have genuine love for you.

You're going to keep wearing it so your friends don't know you've split? How long are you going to carry on this pretence? Give it back and be done with him - the support from your friends will be helpful in moving on or are you hoping to get back together?

You're going to keep wearing it so your friends don't know you've split? How long are you going to carry on this pretence?

I think maybe it’s just that her DD’s birthday party on Saturday isn’t the best time/place to break the news...

“I'm sure most will be pleased anyway!”

Why? Do they not like him? Not think him right for you?

Unless you made some vile racist ‘joke’ about him or something his behaviour is one big red flag. Anger issues, ego problem, bullying come to mind.

I am sorry if you are hurting now but honestly it sounds as if you dodged a bullet here. Give him his damn ring back and walk away in Freedom. why the hell would you want to wear a token from a man like that?

I think you're perfectly entitled to keep it but far better to take the moral high ground and return it I think. Do it after the party if you don't want the day to become all about telling people the details of the break up.

Return it to remove his ability to insinuate that you are a materialistic gold-digger. Instead, you can tell the story of the split and the last sentence will be 'and then he asked for the ring back' with all that that implies about his character.

If it is a family heirloom then give it back. Otherwise keep it.

It was a gift, so it's yours.
He broke the engagement off, so it's yours.
What's he going to do with it anyway, apart from sell it?

Although I do know one charmer who demanded the ring back, and later gave it to his next fiancee...

Keep it ... sell it ... don’t have to give it back.

I gave mine back. It felt like the right thing to do at the time and years later I'm glad I did. It'd be just sitting in the drawer anyway.

I think you’re being extremely grabby if you keep it, as you didn’t get married

Keep the ring.
He broke it off and sounds like an arse
you had a lucky escape - just say you sold it for a tenner

You will need time to process the emotions of the break up.Telling some good friends is a starting point, if they do not react kindly then they are not good friends.

There are so many losses when a relationship ends but you will get over it.

He shouldn't have asked for the ring back but I would give it to him. If he's planning on selling it he will be very disappointed with what he gets for it.
I kept mine and sold it for less than 20% the price he paid for it, money came in handy but was not worth the hassle it took go get rid of it.
Being rid of a cheating scumbag however is priceless.