So to cut a long story short, I decided to divorce my husband after I found out he was sleeping with a woman almost 20 years younger than me. Things got very messy at home, I went through hell, lost a tonne of weight, didn't sleep, barely existed, just about managed to hold together my home, my job and my animals (no children, just a horse and dogs). Somehow I eventually came out the other side, cheered up, decided it's time to do some online dating. Met amazing man on my second attempt. Instant connection, amazing guy, I was thrilled. As my decree nisi still hadn't (and still hasn't) come through at that point, I felt that bringing the new man to my home would be morally wrong, so I refused. He, being a divorcee for 7 years, was keen to "mark his territory" by being allowed into my home. He pushed for commitment from me very early on, said he wanted more than just sex, seemed enthralled with me, was super keen - although he went through a brief period of not quite ghosting, but certainly cutting back on his constant amorous texting and calling after I'd finally slept with him the first time (which was a huge deal for me, maybe not for him as he's been single for ages, but I was still massively disappointed). Meanwhile, I felt I had to tell my (still) husband I'd met somebody else - which has now resulted in him desperately wanting me back. Like, I mean, DESPERATE. He will do anything. Which is, TBH, a little bit suffocating. So I'm torn between going ahead with the divorce (the relationship he had with the younger woman is long since over, and I can forgive it as I've been unfaithful myself in the past and I admit I'd neglected him and I understand that he's nearly 50 and having a bit of a midlife crisis, shit happens, it's life) or do I walk away, get my divorce and give it a bash with the new man? I told the new man that I'm "not ready", I need to get my divorce finalised before I fully immerse myself into the murky world of online dating. His reply was "please come back to me when you are ready". I now can't get this out of my mind. Is it the romance of the century waiting for me, or do I stay put with husband for the convenience? I will add that I am very blessed in that I have a very nice lifestyle, which I very much depend on my husband for. The new guy would easily be able to provide a similar lifestyle, not that I'm gold digging, it sounds like I am, but I'm really not, I just don't feel attracted to men who aren't successful in their careers... Still sounds a bit like I'm gold digging, but in all honesty, I just have a type. Doesn't everyone? The new guy I've met, is sort of like an upgrade of my husband. Similar in so many ways - yet subtly different. Can I trust my instinct with a man I barely know and who hasn't exactly shown me that much commitment apart from many a deep felt sentence spoken in passionate circumstances? Or should I stay with the husband of 13 years who did cheat on me but I sincerely believe he didn't mean to and he regrets it badly and he will always think I am the love of his life? I'm scared of being single in my mid 40s, I won't lie. Terrified even. But I don't know if I love my husband anymore... I have been through hell and back. Will I ever get over that?